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Old 08-20-2008, 08:38 PM   #1
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can someone help me understand...

why is it so important that I cry in front of my shrink? i understand that what I am doing, discussing horrible things with a monotone, no expression on my face either, isnt so healthy but the thought of losing control or crying in front of someone makes me feel uncomfortable. my shrink says I have to feel the emotions in therapy in order to heal. I feel them fine at home all alone, but when it comes to talking about them in therapy, I cant bring myself to cry. maybe if someone can tell me why it is so important, I can force myself to do it. I really do want to heal, and I have never broken down in therapy in all the years I have gone. I am totally dissasociated from my feelings when i'm with someone else. I've tried everything else, prolonged exposure, was willing to try EMDR but she didnt think it was a good idea for me right now. Ive tried everything except crying and suffering in front of someone. sigh.
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Old 08-21-2008, 03:15 AM   #2
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Re: can someone help me understand...

Hello C,

In therapy, trust is an important element.

With trust comes comfortability and with that comes the secured feeling that one can "let their hair down" so to speak.

People, by nature's definition, rarely show their vulnerable side because they are taught "Darwin's Theory"(survival of the fittest;only the strong can survive).

How long have you been with this therapist?

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Old 08-21-2008, 03:04 PM   #3
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Re: can someone help me understand...

I've only been to her twice. I do feel with time she will be someone I can trust, but not yet.
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Re: can someone help me understand...

Hello C,

Give it a little time and keep your mind open to the possibility of sharing more with her in the future.

Remember that Rome wasn't built in a day.

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Old 08-21-2008, 04:51 PM   #5
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Re: can someone help me understand...

I too, have problems with crying or discussing my grief with others.
My dear son died a year ago and I removed all his pictures, gave all memorabilia to his brother and never talk about him. I constantly grieve and think about his death from Lymphoma and feel guilt that I didn't do enough for him. Is this normaL? I feel for you'
I have trouble with emotions in front of others, and many people do, so I understand you! Good luck.

 
Old 08-21-2008, 09:26 PM   #6
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Re: can someone help me understand...

I'm very sorry for the loss of your son. unfortunately guilt is very common, even if not deserved.
my shrink seems to think its very important that I feel emotions in front of her, so I will attempt to do so, I do want to be healed. guess time will tell.
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