Being kind to myself is something that I am trying to do and not something im used to - and I think i am grieving for the person who I used to be - she's gone now and I dont think shes ever coming back - I took your advice and did 3 things for me 1-, I ate a HUGE bar of chocolate 2 - I lay in bed until 11am today (would have stayed longer but have work this afternoon) 3 - I came back here - wish me luck today I am having trouble hiding how sad I feel at work - I am sure with rest I will be ok.
I hope you are ok and that you are being kind to you
take care MBC[/QUOTE]
Hi MBC and others on this post,
Very glad to hear you did some nice things for yourself and my hope is that this may become a habit you will find hard to kick. I got into a fair bit of strife from the admin moderator about that post suggesting you do some nice things for yourself. Apparently their interpretation is that I was holding myself out to be an 'expert', and telling you what you "had to do" i.e prescriptive. Oh well - we live and we learn - got it sorted out now - I think?
It feels so so self-indulgent to do little things for me sometimes, but I got so crook last year that I now believe that 'today' is the day I need to do things that make me feel good. Not next week, or next year, or when the kids grow up, of when such and such occurs. . . . . . but I need to do things for me - now!
So I bought a little sail boat, sleep untill miday if I so choose on certain days, my house looks like a dog's breakfast, kids have gone feral, diner now often consists of nuggets and chips, hubby is completely perplexed and astonished, and I wouldn't say I don't care at all, but I certainly care much less than I used to about fulfilling the needs of others.
Good to hear your sister has moved into her own flat. This may enable you to concentrate on making your home your sanctuary. Doing the little things that make it feel good when you walk in the door. Stimulate your senses e.g. pot-pouri, plants etc., do you have a pet? Perhaps a cocky or galah, or a moggie or even a small doggy if you can manage it. Get out into the sunshine with a great book & remembering to 'slip, slop, slap'.
My goodness I think I had better begin taking my own advice caue I'm feeling pretty flat at present. Don't know if the problem is my current medication regime, Thyroid status, or depression. But just want to sleep all day cause I'm exhausted and very unproductive.
Take care now, regards waratah