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Old 10-31-2008, 11:12 PM   #1
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Well, it's a long story. I worked in an apartment building and lived next door to the manager's son. They ran off and their son was fired for not showing up to work for 3 weeks and expecting to get paid. He went nuts and blamed me even though I did not give him his end of employment notice and had only worked part time up until that point. I stepped in to help with all of the work which made him even more angrier. He threatened to kill me, threw battery acid at my door, bashed in my peep hole with a crow bar, and even killed one of my dogs. His parents, my former supervisors, sent me harassing emails and their daughter threatened to kill me on 2 occasions. I saw the son stockpiling guns and weapons in his storage locker but the police wouldn't do anything. I left my job due to the stress and was told by the police to leave my apartment and not come back so I sold my furniture, took what I could and left. The next day he went through the apartment building with a gun and was arrested. Aparrantly, he had climbed over our patio partition and got in to my apartment, looking for me first, but I was not there anymore. He also had a pretty gruesome list and plan which I was named in.

I kept going through everything and was strong because there were a lot of people relying on me and I felt responsible and sacrificed my own personal time to keep that building running smoothly but after finding out how he planned to kill me, I am very nervous and have very bad nightmares. I feel guilty and like it was my fault and I never ever want to stick my neck out for anybody like I did before because I wound up dealing with all of the consequences while trying to do the right thing. What he did affected all of the tenants in the building. His parents and sister live only a few blocks from me so there is the chance I might run in to them again so I have stopped going to any of the local stores.

He was arrested with his girlfriend but she has been let out of jail now and tried to break in to his old apartment with her new boyfriend the other day. I'm worried he will be let out of jail because there was little the police did while I was being harassed and it wasn't until after his rampage that they did anything. His whole family blame me and don't seem to realize that what happened was their own doing. I just don't know what to do to cope. It's been 2 months since I've worked and I just feel so scared to work again. Because I put on this strong front for so long, my family don't seem to realize that it's affected me no matter how much I tell them that it has.

 
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Hi and Welcome Canada1982,

Wow that sounds like a horrendous time for you - try talking to your family and letting them know how you really feel - there may be some that are supportive and it sounds like you desperatly need some support around about now - I did the strong thing and didnt tell my family when I was attacked because I didnt want to worry them and they were half a world away - they noticed something was wrong but I said no everything was fine - when I finally told them they were very supportive (some were) and it helped a lot - really it did - are you having any therapy? it sounds like it might be helpful - you can say all the things to a therapist that you are keeping inside and they do not judge you - no matter how sad, ridiculous or stupid it sounds - that's me im talking about im sure you would be none of those things but it doesnt matter because they can give you techniques to help you get past this - are you in touch with the police? they may be able to tell you if he is going to get out - I hope things are a little brighter for you - keep posting here and let us know how you are going - take care - things can get better - sometimes it takes time and a lot of hard work - but there is light at the end of the tunnel -- take care MBC

 
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