Forced to marry a Turk & bring him to U.S.A - Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) Message Board

Shababy · 03-21-2003, 10:36 AM

When I read about Elizabeth Smart's predicament, it reminds me of how I feel I was forced to marry him and bring him back to the states. When ever I told him I would leave him, not marry him, not taking him back to the states with me(I was in the Air Force stationed at Incirlik AB)he beat me, tryed to smother me, etc and I still didn't call the police for fear I would loose my stripe that I had worked so hard to earn. Just a few months after we arrived in the states, he molested my 5 yr old which I knew nothing of and but found out when I was in the hospital after he had brutally beaten me because he was diagnosed by the USAF as being infertal and I wasn't getting pregnant and he accussed me of getting pregnant and aborting them and that the USAF doctors and me were together on this strange idea he had. People hold it against me for having married a Turk and also for being on disability when they don't know the whole story. I always feel like an outcast from society.

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kat721 · 04-02-2003, 01:07 PM

Sha,That's a heavy story. I don't know what to say,
and judging from the lack of response here I'm guessing you must get a lot of silent awe.
Where you at with all this now?
It goes with out pointing out that you have had an obviously abusive relationship.
So many women with abusive relationships feel like outsiders anyway.
Not knowing what you are doing or not doing with regards to your relationship and your troubles, all I can really say is this, I am so sorry that such difficult and sorrowful things have happened.
I hope you find your way through the pain to begin to facillitate some long term healing for both you and your child.
I wish you safety, wellness and most of all Peace.
Hugs,
Kat

Lev · 04-18-2003, 11:35 AM

To take that kind of abuse and marry this man for a stripe? I'm sure there is more to your story but it sounds like you've put the stripe before yourself. I really hope things are better for you now and that you've found a way to get your priorities in order. Marrying a TURK is not the problem, looks more like you've decided to marry a child molesting JERK for all the wrong reasons. Help yourself first because most of the time no one else can! After reading your story all that jumped out is that you were afraid to lose your stripe - guess you had no fear of losing your life and health. I'm sure its very hard to get sympathy, I hope you now see why. Good luck and GOD bless..

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JayLynn · 04-25-2003, 04:01 PM

Why haven't you gone to the military authorities and reported this man for beating and molesting you and your child? You cannot live in fear. You have to do something. There are people who can help you

JayLynn · 04-25-2003, 04:02 PM

P.S. and not take your stripe! Why would you worry about that? Marrying a Turkish man is not prohibited