Re: Late/missed Period!!!
You're NOT pregnant. There doesn't sound like there was any direct contact. Even soaking through (which seems nearly impossible that sperm would even soak through anything) wouldn't work. Let me just reassure you that you are NOT pregnant.
The stress of going off to college, leaving your boyfriend, working and staying up that late and the lack of sleep WILL affect your cycle and cause your period to be late. Plus, the stress of thinking you're pregnant will cause a late period. Please try to relax and stop stressing yourself out. You will get your period. If you don't, it could mean that there's something else wrong or you just have irregular cycles in general (which is common amoungst teens) but you're not pregnant if you didn't have sex.
Now, you can't get pregnant from being fingered. If that were to happen, it would be nothing short of a miracle. And, there would definately have to be sperm right on the finger, and even then, it'd be really rare. You really do need to have sex in order to become pregnant, and you didn't have sex, right? I can maybe see it happening if his parts were close to your parts and sperm leaked out on your vagina and got inside, but that'd be like, well, his penis would have to be right there. You can sometimes transfer sperm to the vagina through other means (I've heard of women trying to get pregnant this way) but it sounds like that didn't happened here at all. I mean, if pregnancy was caused by fingering, there'd be a lot more pregnant women in the world.
As far as peeing more, that's probably in your head.
If you're concerned that maybe you're going too far with your boyfriend too soon, it's OK to slow things down. A good guy will respect that and he'll know that your future is more important to you than fooling around. Thats if you're not comfortable with this contact. If you do enjoy it, then go for if it feels good to you, because it's probably better than actually having sex if you aren't ready for the consequences of sex. If you worry about things going further, then get on some prescription birth control and/or buy some condoms. That way you'll be prepared.
Good luck at college!