i too had a m/c in march and am now pg again. i do have a supportive husband, but before i was married to him, i was in an awful relationship. i know what it feels like to just be a human blow-up doll.
for some reason women think that they must have a man in their life to function. that is simply not true. if you are pg then i suggest getting out of the relationship so you can heal yourself and nurture the growing baby inside you. the good thing about that is you can teach the baby of unconditional love and he/she never need see a hostile male father figure.
if you are not pg may i suggest you get out of the relationship NOW. i thought that the man i was with would not be able to make it without me, even though he lied, cheated, drank himself into a stupor night after night and ran up a $30,000 credit card bill for me. every time i got the courage to send him packing he would turn into a sobbing 2 year old. i finally got to the point that i knew i wanted a family and he simply could NOT be the man that i needed and deserved. it took 3 years to figure that out.
i felt so lost when we finally parted (mostly because he would call me at all hours drunk weaping that he was going to die without me) but i somehow got the strength and kept going on MY path. i am sure that he called so upset because his cash cow/blow up doll was gone, not that he actually missed the person that i am.
i met my DH 2 months later (on the internet
) and we were married 2 months after that. we live in a great house, have great jobs, have the best son in the world and i am now pg with #2. i am a walking talking example of a woman who felt that she had to stay in a horrible situation, got the guts to find something better and made it happen. there is nothing special about me, except the fact that i have an abundance of self respect now. get the power back girl, it's been yours all along!