Today I had my first doctors appointment and it went great. I'm only 5 1/2 weeks so it is to early to hear the heart beat. My doctor ordered an ultrasound for next wednesday am I am so excited, yet so nervous. Do you think I should bring my children along to the appointment? The appointment is scheduled for 7:30 in the morning and my husband will be at work and its hard for me to find a sitter that early so I just planned on taking them. They are 8 and 6 years old. I would hate to go to the ultrasound and have something be wrong and have them there. What do you think?
Wow you get to have an ultrasound already! That's cool. I wonder why so many, get ultrasounds more and some don't. I will only get 1, at the half way point.
My first appt is tomorrow.
Anyway I don't see a problem with taking your kids to your us. I am sure they would love it.
Were they excited when you told the you were pg?
I haven't told mine yet. they are a bit younger.
And plus I am always paranoid during beginning of pgs.
Well good luck with your us, keep us posted!
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I wouldn't think it to be appropriate having your children at the first ultrasound. The first is usually the one where they insert the camera into your vagina. Would you want your kids seeing that? Just my opinion, but everyone is different. The mid-ultrasound would be more appropriate because of the heartbeat and the possibility of finding out the sex of the baby. It would be exciting for them.
First ultrasounds aren't always vaginal. My first ultrasound wasn't vaginal. Not everyone has vaginal ultrasounds. In fact, I never had a vaginal ultrasound. Every OB is different. If you're worried about that, just call and ask if it will be a vaginal one. You could always leave your kids in the waiting room, a lot of moms do that at my OB. I think they're old enough to stay by themselves in the waiting room. Or you could have them come in for the ultrasound part. That might be kind of neat, they get to see their little brother or sister!
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No offense, but I wouldnt take them. Not because I don't think it is inappropriate or anything. But, they don't understand, first of all....And, what if something is wrong at the appointment? I dont know...I am 6 wks and I am not telling my son until I am reasonably sure nothing is wrong - possibly after 12 wks. After that, I will take him (and my 4 y.o. step-son if he wants to go) to an ultrasound so they can actually SEE their baby brother or sister (prayin for another boy - we women are way too moody ).....
So, that is my take. I took my son to the doc with me during my last pregnancy, and it was my last appointment, as I miscarried..... That was really hard on him as well, so I can't do that to him again.
GOOD LUCK!!! Let us know how it goes!!!!! WOOOHOOOOOO 4 U!!!!
I had 3 ultrasounds before 14.5 weeks and all were done vaginally. The Dr. said that they dont do over the belly ultrasounds until after that because the baby is too small and it would be too hard to see. There would have been no way to see the heartbeat at 5 weeks, like I did, without doing it transvagianlly.
If your first ultrasound is after 14 weeks or so then it would be over the belly.
You may want to call your Doctor to see what their policy is about leaving kids in the waiting room. Mine has a big sign saying that they are not allowed to be left alone under the age of 16.
I agree with BigMomma that it would not be appropriate to have children in there for the first one. Unless the first one was at 20 weeks. Even then I would be scared of something being wrong and finding out in fron t of them.
They usually print photos out at each ultrasound so you can always show it to them after the fact.
My doctor told me, as well, that they could not do a regular ultrasound so early. We wouldn't be able to get a good view of the baby. The transvaginal ultrasound showed the baby moving around and it was really clear. At 5 weeks, I would be worried about possible problems and having to explain that to the children. Is it possible that they can stay the night at grandma's or with a relative? There will plenty of other opportunities to include them in the pregancy as time progresses.
Thank you for all your responses. First let me start off by stating that all doctors are different and my doctor must be one of them. This is my third child and as like with the other two I am again getting an ultrasound very early in my pregnancy. It is not an transvaginal one it is over the belly. I have had this doctor for 11 years and actually share this doc with some of my friends who also have had early ultrasound "over the belly". Also I respect the fact that some people dont tell people they are pregnant until after 12 weeks but for some of us TTC are friends end up learning are cycles and know when we are supposed to test. So actually with me there are alot of people who know I'm pregnant already. As for me telling my kids, I didn't want them to "accidently" find out by somebody else. It is me who should tell them and people unfortunately do not know how to keep a secret so I decided to go ahead and tell them already. My doctor feels it is ok. for the children to be present, but I will definetly try and find a sitter if I can because it was definelty not my first choice to take them if I didn't have to.