Originally Posted by ILikeRats
Assuming BD means "boyfriend" (I'm used to the abbreviation "Bf,") I think the real questions are how did he treat you before you were pregnant (was he as loving as you needed but now that you're pregnant he seems to care less? Or has he always left you with the nagging feeling that he didn't REALLY care?), and how will he treat you and the baby afterwards? .
Thanks for the imput. No, what I meant by BD is baby daddy. Sorry..... Its confusing situation. See, we were married before, but divorced in 1998. Early this year, we got back together. His past relationship turn him into a jerk. He covered it up well at first. But, that is neither here nor there.
I vented on him earlier. I told him that I am having this baby with or without his support. (we already have a son who is almost 7). Its confusing. Anyway, he tried to help by saying that I am worrying too much and beating myself up over this thing. Hes a man, he doesnt understand how it feels to know that you have a living thing growing inside of you. I have pretty much come to the conclusion that in a few months when I can get some money saved and get some other things taken care of, I am going to end the relationship anyway. It will be hard raising another one alone (I raised my son alone from the time he was 4 mos old until January of this year [6 yrs]) and fortunately I have a really good male friend (completely platonic) that has been an incredible friend to me for the past few years, and my son adores him, and he adores my son. So, I am not worried. I have done it alone already and I know I have what it takes.
So anyway....Oh BTW...im white, my baby daddy is black, and the relationship counceling thing is a no-go because he thinks it is stupid. Nice huh? He said it is "for white people"...Is that the stupidest thing you ever heard? Oh boy...
Thank you for the advice.....It really helped just to vent my frustration. I LOVE THESE BOARDS!!