Location: Minnesota, just moved from California where I lived my whole life.
Posts: 447
Best Wishes to all of you..
Hi ladies,
I just wanted to tell you how much I appreciate how nice and welcoming you all have been over here, and wish you the best of luck in your pregnancies. I lost my baby today, so I'm not going to be around anymore. Remember how lucky and blessed you are, and take good care of those little ones.
I will be alright, but I doubt ill be back, it's just too hard to go though all of this, I don't think I could do it again.
Polarized...
I'm so sorry to hear bout your loss. I can see by your other posts that you were ttc for quite awhile...I had a m/c back in February, so I know how painful it is for you right now. My thoughts and prayers go out you and your family...and I wish the best of luck to you.
God bless you and you family. this is a hard time for loved ones to go through. just remember to be there for eachother. my thoughts and prayers are with you.
Oh Heather, I am soooooo sorry! I know how you feel though and hope you change your mind. I to miscarried it December and it is hard!! I wish you luck!!! Take care!!
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Teresa,
Kaleb 6/23/04 aftr TTC 4yrs
Miscarried 12/31/04 @ 6wk 5 days
It's a GIRL EDD Jan 12, 2006
sorry for your lose .keep your head up and take some time but don't give up.i miscarried 4 times and thought i was broke at one time .now thing are working out .as they will for u to. keeping u in my prayers.
Location: Minnesota, just moved from California where I lived my whole life.
Posts: 447
Re: Best Wishes to all of you..
Thanks you guys,
I guess I never realized miscarriages happen so often, I'm surprised by how many of you also have experienced the loss. I was also surprised that I could become so attached and excited about a pregnancy I only knew about for a week. Now I understand why people don't tell anyone until after the first trimester. I dread having that conversation, no one knows what to say. But you guys are great, your kind words have really helped me through this.
I just thought after so long of trying to concieve, that I had finally reached my goal by becomming pregnant, I knew there were risks, especially for those of us over 35, but I didn't think it (miscarriage) would really happen to me. I'm feeling more like I could try again maybe, I'm just kind of afraid to get my hopes up, and then have nothing happen.
Can you guys who miscarried before and then got pregnant again tell me one thing? Aren't you unreasonably worried and scared that it will happen again, isn't it just a constant fear after it has happened to you? And, how do you allow yourself to bond with your unborn child when you are holding back that way? How do you keep from holding back, and protect yourself emotionally, isn't it instinctual to hold back after something like that?
Heather, I was actually more reserved with my 1st pregnancy, I just couldn't believe it was true after trying for so long, and I worried the whole time that something would happen, it got alittle better after I made it to the 2nd trimester but I still had worries! I had heard how common miscarriage was. And I don't think it was really real to me until the ultrasound I had at about 12 wks when he actually looked like a baby. I think I was 19 wks before I bought anything, when I found out it was a BOY!! And with my 2nd pregnancy, I too only knew of it a week then lost the pregnancy, but I was so excited, We went ahead and told both sides of our families, I started buying a few things! Then I lost the baby, I was attached and very upset but not as bad as it would have been if I didn't have my son who was still a baby his self at only 6 mo. And this time I used the Clomid again like I did with my first and only my family (immediate and a few very close friends know), I haven't bought anything, and I am excited, but not overly, just trying to be causous, and I don't think that is anything you can avoid! I will feel alot more comfortable on the 17th when I finally have my first Ultrasound. My Dr. was great and assured me there was NOTHING I did to cause the miscarriage, and alot of women blame them selves when there was nothing that they did or could have done to prevent it. But please don't let it discourage you, just wait alittle while (I was told 3 cycles to let the lining in my Uterous repair). And then try again and to protect yourself just don't tell alot of people until you feel more secure. I wish you luck and hope to see you back on here really soon. Take care, mourn your loss, give yourself time to heal and then try again. Sending baby dust your way. You will be in my prayers during this difficult time.
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Teresa,
Kaleb 6/23/04 aftr TTC 4yrs
Miscarried 12/31/04 @ 6wk 5 days
It's a GIRL EDD Jan 12, 2006
With my first pg, it was never a thought in my mind that it could happen...so with pg #2 I told almost everyone about it a week after I knew about it and 2 days later I m/c'd. It was very hard, and almost embarassing because the "congratulations I heard it through the grapevine..." kept coming for days. I would broke down a million times when I had to explian what happened. I too was surprised at how much I was already attatched to the baby...I greived for a very long time privately because I wasn't sure if it was normal to be sad for something that wasn't even considered a fetus yet.
I'm 10 weeks along this pg, and still haven't told a soul except my OBGYN and the lovelies on this board. I am very terrified of history repeating itself. I still feel sad for my loss, and do not think of this pg as a replacement. I can't help but be excited and love the baby I am carrying...I'm sure some people can turn that off and not get attatched, but I personally cannot. I was not attatched to my son until the last month of my pg when I realized I wanted to meet the one who had been kicking my bladder for 5 months...but not as much as I was the moment he was born...and I almost feel gulity now for not loving him the moment I knew about him. He is the best thing that I ever did...All I can do is hope and pray this baby will decide to stick around for 9 months...
I am, again, SO sorry for what you've gone through. Please take very good care of yourself. And don't be afraid to try again if you ever decide to...miracles happen every day.
Heather,
I also miscarried the first time after years of trying and going through a variety of treatments. Also, my sister miscarried her first as well. She now has a 9 week old daughter and I am 28 weeks pregnant with a son.
I have been reserved, almost afraid to jinx anything on this pregnancy. I told no one but my husband until we had our first ultrasound showing a heartbeat. I never bought a thing for him until I got to 26 weeks, when I thought, well, if he's born now, he could possibly survive. And, now that I've bought all the crib, furniture, carseat, etc, I'm afraid that something will happen and I'll have all that stuff for nothing. I know that sometimes that's a bit overboard, but it's natural feelings. Most of the time I don't feel that way. Most of the time I am just thrilled to be pregnant and can't wait to meet him. It was a long painful road to get here, but I'm close to the finish finally!
Hang in there and when / if the time feels right to try again, you will know.
I'm 30 weeks pregnant and have FINALLY felt comfortable with this pregnancy. I miscarried last summer at10 weeks...when i became pregnant again a fewmonths later I was scared and worried until now..even after i've had my ultrasound. I've read so many horror stories and I'm a worrier anyways that it was very hard to feel comfortable until now.
I think everyone is different..but from my experience time does heal our hearts and we are able to move on.
I wish you the best and take care.
S.
