Hi Everyone, I seem to be the only male here, but my wife is pregnant and she is due April 30th. We \ I am very excited and I have been reading these baords for while and thought it was time to start a threado of my own.
So, the question stands; Any other soon to be Poppas here??
Welcome BT, I'm glad you're here! It's a very informative place to be....and we tend to give each other TMI!!! LOL!! I hope our posts haven't grossed you out yet!! I hope you can find some other guys to talk to.
Thanks for responding, ladies. I think I might be alone here. Nevertheless, you are all very imformative and I'm learning allot!! This will be my first one and we going for the first U/S (I hope this is the right abbreviation) today. From all of your experiences . .how do the men usually hold up to the Blood and stuff? Ever seen any fainters? This is the only thing I'm concerned about . . other than the whole being able to provide for my family thing.
Ausomemom2; 13 days!?!? you must be ready to pop!!!
I have been reading these boards also and learning a LOT. I too have felt like I must be the only guy here. I have made it a priority to be with my wife through every step of this pregnancy. This will be our 1st and is due Jan. 7th.
Hey there, well my brother passed out when his wife had their baby several years ago. He is a whimp when it comes to blood or anything serious like that. If you are a whimp, lol (kidding?!), also then just don't look and don't cut the cord.
My husband and I are also due in April, I don't know what date because I have had four different dates and I can't remember which is most current, but between the 8th-16th somewhere, and my husband is also worried about being able to take care of us and we do very well. Fortuneatly because of the military he can retire this winter and get that retirement check the rest of his life and we are taking it back to the midwest where money goes much further than California and we will live nicely. I believe it is natural for the men to worry about taking care of the family. If you want to save some money on the baby, don't buy a changing table, just buy the crib. Also maybe you won't need a dresser for it if you have a nice closet that you can organize. These are some things that I am planning to do. They grow so fast anyways that soon enough you won't use alot of items you purchased. Good luck Man!
I think I am prepared, we start birthing classes next in a couple weeks. Still got a few things to do to the nursery, and we are both starting to "nest". Since we are due the beggining of Jan. I got a lot of stuff to get done in the next month, I dont think we will get much done around the holidays. Right now I dont have any big concearns or worries. In the first trimester I worried constantly about everything, finances, health of my wife and baby. Financially, we just started early buying the expensive stuff a little at a time, one month a car seat, the next a crib, etc. There were 3 days after the baby started moving, that he didn't move at all. Man, I was really freaking out, but doing my best not to let my wife know I was worried. Now, I know this is normal, and he was probably moving at night when she couldn't feel him. I know the other day my wife was laying against my arm, I had just awakened to feel him kicking my arm and it felt like he was doing some major acrobatic stuff in there , looked over and she was sound asleep. I dont know how on earth she could sleep through that, but she did.
We have both been open in talking about what we want, we discussed the epidural, episiotomy, c-section, etc. and I will revisit the topics just before she's due to make sure her mind hasn't changed.
I know I cant understand why some guys aren't more involved. I work with a guy that can't even tell you his wifes exact due date. I have a brother that cant understand why I want to be so involved. So far I have missed 1 doctors appt., and I was sick and at my own doctots appt. and I felt bad about that. Our doc's nurse even commented that it was nice to see the husband being as involved. With both of us there, we both ask questions, that the other hadn't thought of, and that the other had forgot. I just figure I am being there for my family, and hopefully laying the foundation for a better family unit.
I would say that most men aren't that involved in pregnancies. I don't see many men at the doctor...actually now that I think about it.... I have only ever seen one man with his wife or girlfriend in the OB's office. I'm really glad that you two are talking about your birthing options. I never planned on having a c-section the first time and I was shocked and scared when the doctor told me that we were going in.
It's very nice that you guys are getting prepared because after all, you both are the ones having this child! A lot of men just want to deal with the baby when he/she's here.
I think it is great that you guys are interested enough to even be on this board. My DH is totally freaked, looks at me with disgust because he knows I am pregnant and just is not there for me at all. I am 11 weeks pregnant and am saddened by his behaviour, in fact he goes to the extreme level of causing me a lot of anxiety by shouting in my face about it and how is life is over etc. So I am happy for your partners who are very lucky to have you.
I just want to warn the new daddy about the prenatal classes. I found my hubby and I suffered from information overload and actually freaked out after every single class due to fear. I think it's great that you go to the appointments with your spouse. My husband told me that it didn't seem real to him that we were having a baby until he saw her on the ultrasound. My husband is a very hands on dad and he is the one who taught me how to bath our daughter. He went to both her baths at the hospital while I recovered from a c section and insisted upon doing them.As a woman I find dads who are involved very attractive. I think most dads worry about the blood stuff and think they can't handle it. My husband was sacred about that and he now he encourages all his friends to cut the cord and to watch their kids come into the world. He describes the cord as shoe leather in feel and that he had to really put his arm into it to cut it. I would suggest that you talk to your spouse about your fears so she doesn't feel alone in her fears. My husband did the tough guy thing during the pregnancy and let me tell you I could barely her my daughters cry when she was born due to his sobs of joy.
We are signed up fpr 3 classes, the childbirth class, baby care basics, and a breasteeding class. I have wondered about the information overload. But have already been dealing with some of that, from everyones advice, several books, websites, etc.
As far as the blood goes, up until now as long as the blood isn't mine I am usually fine. I just don't know if I can handle seeing my wife in that much pain.