At this point you should be able to lay down flat at feel it between your pubic bone and your belly button. An easy way is to put both hands in that area and focus on breathing and making your belly button goe up and then down about 2-3 times. On that last breath out, push and you should be able to feel your uterus.
At 20 weeks it is about at your belly button.
As far as how hard, if you do these breathing things it makes it easier but you do want to press in pretty good. You will know when you feel it because it will be kind of hard.
Last edited by FirstTimeMomma; 10-26-2005 at 08:37 AM.