I'm not sure (have never been tested, nor has my SO) if I or my SO are able to become pregnant. No, we aren't trying right now, but I would like to find out if we ever could become pregnant when the time comes.
The only thing is, he has one testicle because when he was younger (I would say between age 2-4) he had to have one removed since it didn't drop correctly. However, his mom and dad sort of think it half could have been from him getting kicked there at an early age or half it just plain didn't drop. Would this effect his ability to produce sperm that can produce a child or could he really just be shooting blanks?
And also, I have a feeling that I have had for a while that I may not be able to become pregnant, sort of a "woman's intuition" thing I guess. I would love to have children some day and so would he as I said, when the time comes.
It's also a little odd to me that an "accident" hasn't happened yet because of the numerous times he's ejaculated in me and nothing has become of it. Plus, we have unprotected sex every time. This isn't a case of stupidity, just our choice and we're well aware of the consequences.
Now to my real question: what tests are available that could be done to determine this for both of us?
The best thing to do would be to go to a gyn/ob for yourself - tell them that you are considering conception and want to make sure that everything is okay wih your "internal plumbing", so to speak. That would eliminate the concern of any obvious, visible problems that could prevent conception. Also, your s/o can have a sperm count done, and a complete physical to see if he is sexually healthy. If all checks out, you can start trying. They don't diagnose infertility until over a year of actively trying - i.e. sexual activity during times that you are most likely to conceive (at ovulation). If you haven't been having sex during these few days every month, it is quite possible nothing would happen anyway. You may be unintentionally using the rhythm method!
I agree that if you are having concerns you should talk to your gyn. However, I wanted to reply because I used to feel the same was as you. My husband does not have the same issues, however I also had this "feeling" that I was unable to have children. My cycles are all out of whack, and in the 4 years that my DH and I were "active," we used protection maybe 3 times and nothing ever happened. We were not actively trying to conceive, but I found it surprising that we never "accidentally" conceived. That is, until I took a pg test this past January and that second line showed up right away, and DARK! Needless to say, I am now 7 months pregnant with our baby boy! So, my feelings about being unable to conceive were obviously wrong I've read that even while actively trying, there is only like a 25% chance of conceiving each month and that's if all conditions (i.e. timing) are perfect, which explains why even though we were not preventing pregnancy, we never conceived until now.
Anyway, I'm babbling now but do talk to your doc if you have any concerns. You could also start charting your cycles to get a sense of what's happening with your cycles. The book Taking Charge of Your Fertility is a great resource if you want to start doing that. Also, like the previous poster said, your SO can have a sperm analysis done to see if there are any problems there.
I don't know anything about tests or your guy's condition, but I thought for the longest time it was impossible for me to become pregnant because my boyfriend never used condoms for the first 2-3 years we were together and nothing happened. We did use protection for the next couple of years, but then as soon as we stopped I was pregnant! So just because it hasn't happend yet don't beleive it's impossible.
i think most women worry they won't be able to get pg before they start trying but really you will never know till you start trying i used to think the same as you we used withdrawal contraception for years but the first time we ttc i got pg and even after my m/c i got pg straight away again. it is natural when you want kids in the future to fear you won't be able to have them or that something will go wrong. if you are concerened go see a fertility specialist my cousin did this because she has pcos and her dh has a low sperm count she is starting on clomid when they start trying next year. best wishes i am sure you will be fine
The odds of becoming pregnant even when you have sex precisely in the right timeframe for conception is still only 20-25%, so it's not particularly odd to me that you haven't become pregnant yet.
Go over to the TTC (trying to conceive) board and learn about charting your basal temperatures and cervical mucus each day so you can learn more about your fertility cycle and can plan your baby-dancing around those fertile times.
My brother only has one functioning testicle due to a sports injury, and he has a 3 year old son.