Before we got married my fiance told me he wanted kids. Then, suddenly after we were married he said he didn't and started acting all childish and selfish. It was a really rough first two years of marriage, to say the least. He was constantly saying things like "well, before I was married I used to..." fill in the blank. I would remind him that he voluntarily got married and that no one was stopping him from doing those things (jetskiing, bike riding, etc.).
After my sister and 4 year old niece stayed with us for about 6 months he finally started to realize that having a kid was doable and was something he might want. He fell in love with my niece and her with him. We finally decided to try to have a baby. I was worried that he would continue to be really selfish and childish as the pregnancy progresses, but to my surprise he is finally starting to grow up and act like an adult (which he did when we were dating... for some reason he regressed when we got married).
He is trying very hard to be supportive and caring while I'm pregnant. The other day I made him watch one of those "baby story" shows where the people bring the baby home from the hospital. He looked at me and said "what are you going to do when the baby comes home?" I thought he meant something like "I don't understand why you're not going to be jumping up and doing all this cleaning and organizing and work when the baby comes home... don't they just sleep all the time??"
BTW, my in-laws aren't very supportive about the baby, to the point of being downright rude (mainly my SIL who has no kids, but MIL, too). I just lower my expectations for them (I don't plan on any visits after the baby is born -- they live 1000 miles away; I don't plan on any gifts from them, etc.) that way I might be pleasantly surprised if something positive DOES happen from them.
But no, he had one of those realization moments that having a baby is alot of work in the beginning and very tiring, with the constant feeding, burping, changing, and cleaning (and trying to catch a little sleep in between all of those things!). He looked at me very worried like and said "You're going to be really tired!" I smiled and said "And when you come home from work I'm going to hand her to you and then YOU can do it for a few hours.
" I think he's starting to "get" it...