Hey girls, my due date was moved up to Feb. 1st, instead of Feb. 10th. I've been getting weekly ultrasounds done to monitor her. There's a high probability she'll die in utero, so every Wed. I get ultrasounds, which is great for me, but a pain in the bum to deal with my insurance to cover them. My insurance normally only covers the routine ultrasounds, and now I'm considered high-risk, so I'm still trying to get authorized for all the ultrasounds. grrrr. So I'm 13 weeks pregnant today!!
It's sad that I'm out of the normal danger zone for healthy pregnancies, but with mine, I'm just now jumping into it. But everything on the last ultrasound looked good, except for her fast hb. It was 191bpm. But it changes drastically during the ultrasounds.
I pray everyday that I'll just make it to term to have her and see her, even if only for a few hours. I've decided to take this year off school kind of. I'm just going to take a few internet courses. My OB wants me to take it easy. So i'll be cutting my workload down alot also. Which starts to put me in a financial bind, but it's worth it to make sure everything is ok.
Well just wanted to update yall a little bit on my little girl
Taking the year "off" sounds like a great idea, and I'm glad you're making it work for you. I'm sorry your insurance is being such a pain about the u/s, but at least you get to see her every week! I know for me the whole there's a baby in there didn't feel real except during an u/s until I started being able to feel it move regularly. Visiting with her every week by u/s will help you build a bond.
I have so much respect for you, star shine. You and the baby will be in my prayers. And as much as it can be frightening, I appreciate learning from everyone's experiences here. I'm actually learning to feel less guilty for the m/c I had 2 yrs ago (only at 6.5 wks). I see that there are any number of things that could have gone wrong that probably had nothing to do with how I treated my body (not that I'm a drug abuser or anything!!).
Hey everyone! Thanks for all the replies. I really appreciate all the support I'm getting on here. I joined a support group for Trisomy 18 babies. Alot of moms on there have already had their babies die, either in utero (majority), or were stillborns. So I'm getting a little nervous. And I feel blessed. Most of these moms didn't find out about their little ones illnesses until it was too late to even have an option to abort. I found out early enough to where I had the choice, and it makes me feel so much better that I chose not to.
It's hard without her father in the picture. I never expected this from him. He still sees me, but refuses to talk about her. Hopefullyhe'll come around, but I'm not counting on him at all. I love my ultrasounds, b/c it is a way to bond with her
I have a question for all you moms out there. How early did you feel your little one flutter around? My OB said I should feel her pretty early b/c I was so small to begin with. I was told when moms are on the smaller side, they tend to feel their babies earlier. I'm just waiting!! That will be the ultimate thrill for me!! I can't wait.
Well, I'm certainly NOT on the small side. I think I felt something at 17 weeks, but after that I didn't feel anything at all until 21 weeks, when I started to feel something every day. One of my favorite activities in long meetings is watching my belly when the baby's awake to see when I can see the movements on the outside.
You are such an amazing woman. I have read all of your posts and you always sound so positve with everything that is going on. You are such an inspiration to all women pregnant or not. You and your DD are in my thoughts and prayers.
i have heard a lil about this but if the baby is born will she live or will she only be with u for a lil while ...i dont mean to upset u i just trying to find out more about this .........ui hope your baby will have a happy live in ur belly and outside good luck to u .....u will be in my thought s both of u
newmom -- Most live-birth Trisomy 18 babies die within two days of birth -- most within hours. However, some live to five or six years, and the number I've seen is that there are 10 Trisomy 18 kids in the world who have made it into their teens. Once they survive the critical first week, a lot depends on how aggressive you want to be with invasive heart and intestinal surgeries; many feel that because the life-span is still so short, and because the children are so severely handicapped, that it's better to let them live naturally as long as they can than to subject them to painful procedures; others feel one should treat them medically as one would any other child. But it's really very few -- maybe 1 or 2% who have to worry about this.
wow im sorry to hear this if i wuold be in that spot i dont know if i would go along with it sincei wouldnt want my baby to have any pain ,....i dont beleive in abortion but in this cause i would have to think about it i still think your an amazing women for doing this you most be s strong person still i hope u get to see his baby when he or she is born and spend time with he or she
There are some cultures that believe that there are souls who only need to experience life briefly - they are "higher" beings and do not need to live a long time on this plane to work out unresolved karma issues, nor do they have a chance to sin or to think evil thoughts. They come, live, and go in perfection. Although I said (and I meant) in my last post that we would support your decision 100% no matter what you decide, I am glad that you made this choice and are okay with it. By allowing this soul to come through you and experience life, no matter how long, in or out of utero, and by loving and accepting her, I truly believe that you will be especially blessed - you will have allowed another soul to fulfill her purpose and destiny, and she will be grateful. Yes, you are young and you never expected this, but there are some things bigger than we can understand. Sometimes we are called to action to fulfill a purpose or to be an angel to someone else and help them get where they need to go on their journey. I believe that you are a "life checkpoint" for your baby, and that she will provide your soul with inspiration to grow. It is no coincidence that you have met eachother and love eachother on your respective journeys. I do not know what your spiritual beliefs are (and I am not usually this new age!) but in truly speaking from my heart, I believe that you have made a good and important decision.
Star shine.......you are definately an amazing woman!!! I'll be keeping you and your daughter in my thoughts and prayers. I think it is wonderful that you are giving this pregnancy a chance so that you can meet your daughter, even if it is just for a few minutes. I have never been in your shoes before, but if I were, I don't know how I'd find the strength to go through with this, but I would try......I don't think I would do it any other way. I would want that chance too. You are a strong woman..........and I wish you and your little girl the best. Please keep us posted.
I just wanted to say that you are already a wonderful Mommy. Youre little girl is being given to you for a reason. God wanted you to be her Mommy. And even tho he is only blessing you with her for a short time, her time here is a very beautiful & blessed thing. I am a Mother to an angel. I only had my daughter for a little over 2 yrs. She didnt die of natural causes. But the pain is still the same. The joy of being her Mommy takes the sadness away. I will pray for you & that sweet precious girl growing in your tummy. If you need anything you can come to me to talk. Take care. Hugs. Heather
I just read your posts for the first time and cried reading the whole thing. It was amazing to read everyone of your posts and see how honest and strong of a woman you are. People never know how they are going to react to a situation until God gives it to them and I think you are handling this with great class and strength. When I was 17 I got pregnant while taking the pill and I aborted the baby. At the time I thought it was a good idea but I think about that baby almost everyday. Every year I think about how old it would be turning on what was my due date. I am still pro choice but I personally could never have another abortion and I think you are making a wonderful decision for you and your daughter. Life is strong and miracles happen everyday.
Oh and by the way I didnt feel my DS kick until about 24 weeks and i am 5 foot 3 and 140 pounds. I want you to know you are in my thoughts and prayers and if you ever need anything we are all just a click away. Love Sara
My Best Friend has a niece with this disease and she is still alive her mama loves her so much too and shes a beauty i see all her mama does for her and all the disease does to her lil body but i thank god that my lil baby doesn't ever have to go through something like that i guess i'm not strong enough i'm 18 and just had my lil gurl a month ago shes getting so big and i pray to god she'll stay healthy my friends niece is almost 4 years old they said she wouldn't make it but shes still here so there still hope