I just went thru this. I desperately wanted a boy. I could only picture myself raising boys. When we went for the 20 week scan I told the tech not to tell me, but she could tell my husband and he could tell me out of the office. Because I knew that I would lose it if it was a girl. Well... it was a girl.
I cried for days. Seriously, DAYS. Then depression for about 2 - 3 months. I just couldn't force myself to get into having a girl. We had a name, bedding, etc. all picked out for a boy - I had nothing for a girl. I didn't want a girl.
Even when I had my shower, I wasn't happy at all. I hate pink. My family gets this, so they didn't get pink stuff, but others did. Then my mom had to go and get this frilly outfit. I lost it. I hate that stuff.
I felt so horrible about myself because I wasn't happy. Of course, I was happy that the baby was healthy and that I was pregnant with a child because I know lots of people that have a hard time getting pregnant. But it still didn't matter. My husband wasn't very supportive. All he could say was, "why are you crying? JUST because it's a girl". He could never understand it. Luckily my sister had the same thing happen with her second. She already had a girl and then she thought she was having a boy. It turned out a girl. She cried and I remember it affecting her a lot. So I had her to talk to about my feelings. She told me too that it took her a good 2 years to get a really close bond with the second girl, but now she wouldn't trade her for the world and they are extremely close. Now she just asks me "are you coming around about it being a girl" and I just say, "well, I can't trade her". And we laugh.
Now I can't say that I'm overjoyed that it's a girl, but I love her. We do have a name now and I bought the bedding (jungle theme) a couple of weeks ago. We are painting the room this week (it's half done).
I guess what makes me okay with it is that this is our first and I know we will have more, so I have another chance for my boy.
When it comes down to it, you are entitled to YOUR FEELINGS. I remember always telling my husband that just because I feel sad and disappointed, doesn't make it wrong. I was not wrong in how I felt. Don't ever let any one tell you that you are wrong in how you feel. I think that hurt the most when my dh made me feel like I was wrong for feeling sad about a girl. It made it harder to get over.
Plus, I look at how I turned out. I'm not a girly girl. I play soccer (yes still at 35), I ride my own motorcycle (well had one until my dh sold it because I was pg), I love racing, etc, etc. My little girl will be my soccer player. Lol.
I have 8 weeks to go and we are getting very excited. I'm excited for her to be here already. Even though she's fun to play with in my tummy. She's a fiesty little one. Even responds when I say her name and talk to her.
Anyway, if you take anything away from this post, remember that YOU ARE NOT WRONG IN HOW YOU FEEL.
P.S. I still secretly pray that the u/s was wrong and it's a boy, but we've had 2 u/s and I saw them both... it's a girl. But ya never know!!!