Hi - I've posted this on the TTC board but I thought I would post it here as well, as I know many of you ladies have had a difficult road to a BFP and you all are trully an inspiration to all of us who're TTCing. Any hope and comfort you can give is much appreciated ... and I wish you all the very best!
Ok -- We've been TTCing for 10 months now with no success. I try to be as optimistic and upbeat as possible (and DH is my most trusted comforter and support!)... but sometimes I just cannot help getting that "i'll never have a baby" feeling
I don't temp/chart as don't want to give up my entire mind-space to TTC (if I can help it!), so the last couple months, we've been trying to BD every other day or so through out the cycle to catch the right time + also to take the "chore" out of BD... so life is still nice and our relationship is as wonderful as ever.... but mentally, I am starting to increasingly feel depressed...
Anyone out there who knows about / has a bfp story after 10 or 11 months or more of TTC would be a very welcome inspiration for me. Thanks SO much for your time and god bless
Hi Hazel! I don't know if you remember me, but we were on the TTC board for a while together. I'm sorry that you're still TTC, but I too tried 11 months before getting preg. this time. I know you don'tt want to temp, and I said the same thing........for the same exact reasons, but I did try anyway, and that was the month we conceived. I say give it a try. Have you had any testing? I only ask because if you're not temping, and haven't had any testing, you really will never know if you're O'ing or not. I hope this helps a little. I know how hard it is, every month to get a BFN, I know. But you will have a baby.........keep TTC, don't give up! I'll be praying for you!
Of course I remember you!!... I tried to check in on you a couple times on this board, but could not locate you (guess I did not go to the right thread)... how are you?... how far along?... good to know all is well with you.
Wow, I remember the time you got your bfp (end last year?)... but did not know that it took you 11 months!... that is very inspirational for me!!!
I know I O 'cos I had it checked out a couple times random months via u/s and also have the usual bloating/aches and wet cm for a few days every month around the middle of cycle... but have not had any "official" or in-depth check up yet... I still felt we could do it on our own!... but lately beginning to wonder if we need help...
well, I think I will carry on working hard at trying for some more months and then decide what to do... if it happened for you in 11 months, then there is hope for me yet!!!!!!!!!
I'm sorry to say that I myself have never experienced ttc for a long period of time, but I can relate to the wondering if I'll ever have a baby feeling. I had a partial molar pregnancy about 1 1/2 years ago and I had to purposely not get pregnant for about a year...and that entire year I had to wonder if it would ever happen again, if there was an underlying issue, etc. And even though I'm 10 1/2 weeks right now, I still think about the possibility that it may never happen. But I do have a sister who went through ttc for 10 years! and just had her baby girl through in vitro. So there is always hope. There are so many doors yet to open and so many advances in technology that your chances of conceiving are extremely good...even if they can't pinpoint the cause. Also, I highly recommend the ovulite. I know you don't want to give your whole life up to ttc, but the ovulite is very simple and from what I've experienced with it, is very accurate. It is a little microscope like thing that you wipe some saliva first thing in the morning on, and if it dries with fern leaf patterns, that means you will be ovulating in the next day or so. And it is not disposable so you can use it month after month. I would also recommend going to an infertility specialist to get a workup done. If anything it will give you piece of mind.
We too tried for almost a year and are now almost 22 weeks along with a baby girl! I know you don't want to temp, but I have to agree with Dizzy. Once I started, I found out that I was not ovulating on the same day every month. The second month of charting, I got my BFP! Before hand I thought I knew when I was Oing, but come to find out I was way off! Also, don't be afraid to see a fertility specialist before you hit that one year mark. I started seeing one, but as it turned out, we were able to get pregnant all on our own. Please don't give up hope! For some people it just takes a little longer
when i first met my husband, i fell preg by accident 3 months later, so when we decieded to try for another we didnt think anything of it. we started trying march 2005 and didnt fall pregnant until december 2006, it felt like a lifetime.but when i did fall preg i lost the baby in january due to m/c. we started trying again the next month and finally fell pregnant in july and we now have a 4 week old son. try not to loose hope as it will happen, but if your worried see your gp
dunno if this helps but while we were trying i was trying to bd every other day from day 10, i then got fed up with that as it obviously wasnt working so i deceided the next month i would forget my ov days and just judge it by cm, and it was that month we got preg
Mia-Louise jan '04
Jacob april '07
Hi Hazel. Thank you for asking, I'm currently almost 25 weeks, with a little girl! Hazel- I was scared to temp, and have 1 more thing to obsess about, but it turned out to be the opposite. I actually felt like I was taking charge for the first time in TTC. I really suggest trying, it's really easy if you use an online site that's really popular. Like Meg said, i was O'ing earlier than I thought, and all of the other signs, like CM or cramps that told me when I thought I was O'ing were wrong, so think about it.
I did the temp thing for months and after finding out my own normal ranges for pre-O and post-O, I just checked mid month to see that temp dip and then again at the end of the month to see if my temp dropped to pre-O levels and I'd know my period would start that day. If my temp stayed up for that week when I should be having a period, I was pg! This spot check method helped me not obsess and I liked the information so I'd know what to expect.
Maybe you know your normal ranges and could just check at the essential times of month? Worked for us!
Hi, I just thought I'd share some of my story. DH and I TTC'd for 6 years with no luck. We never went the infertility route, because I was too afraid to find out that I was "broken" and couldn't conceive. So, we finally decided to adopt. About 4 weeks after we brought the two most adorable little boys home with us, I found out that I was pregnant . TALK ABOUT A SHOCK! I also found out that I had a deformed uterus, and I should have never been able to get pg. Then, my DS was born 4 months prematurely, but that's another story. I had surgeries to repair my uterus, and I am pregnant again, and it only took 3 months of trying this time. I used OPK's the third month, and it worked like a charm, as I am now 10 weeks 4 days pregnant.
Good luck to you. I hope you get the BFP you are hoping for very soon.
Hazel--I remember you from the boards as well. I TTC for this one for only 5 months (but with getting preg for our DD the first month, it seemed a lifetime). I want to also suggest temping. I didn't want to either, and also didn't want to obsess about it. BUT the second month of temping I was preg. It really gives you amazing insight to your body and functions. I knew when I was o'ing (b/c of the rise), when I would get my AF (b/c of the drop in temp), and I knew when I was possibly preg, b/c the temp never dropped! It is something that I am going to do even after I deliver b/c it is so neat to know what my body is doing. Good luck. I am sure you will fall pregnant soon. Prayers and wishes!