Thank you for your replies!!!!!
Vigette-I'm so happy to hear your sister's SIL has a healthy baby
Junemommy-At my first U/S there was no mention of anything on the kidneys. however at the most recent one the tech said there was some fluid there that was measuring slightly out of normal range, but said it probably wasn't a problem since the kidneys are transient and fluid fills and empties from them rapidly. In fact, when the doctor came in to look at the U/S about 10 minutes later, the level of fluid was back into the normal range. Maybe they caught the kidneys when they were at their more full stage.
I too have heard that soft markers are controversial but it is still something that weighs on my mind, however my husband and I decided that the risk of an amnio, no matter how "little" the risk is, was not a risk we were willing to take. Wishing you luck and please keep me updated. I'm praying and wishing the best for you and your little one