I think it's best to just go in with an open mind if you can. Try not to plan on anything for sure, because of course, you won't know what is going to happen until it happens. That is what I did the first time around and it seemed to go well, pretty much. I of course planned on getting an epidural, having minimal pain and a wonderful experience. While it was a wonderful experience regardless, my epidural wore off so I certainly wasn't without pain. But again, I just did what my doctor and nurses told me to do and overall I think it all turned out just fine. You just never know how these things are going to pan out...you may be ok not having any drugs at all, or you might feel like you can't do without them. Either way is ok. You might be able to deliver vaginally without an episiotomy, or you may need one. You may have to have a c-section. It's just hard to know exactly what to expect because ANYTHING can happen. So like I said, go in with an open mind and do the best you can. Everything will turn out just fine!!!