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Old 02-18-2003, 02:17 PM   #1
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Horny hubby

Ok, I love my husband sooooooo much, but he is so horny all of the time and since I've become pregnant, I've not been feeling too swell and sex is the last thing on my mind. He gets a little mad and irritated when I don't want it and I've explained to him how I feel but he just doesn't understand! Anyone else in the same boat and how did you get him to realize the changes that are going on in your body (causing you to not want sex)?!?!

 
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Old 02-18-2003, 02:22 PM   #2
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Well I can sorta understand, but in my case I was the one who wanted it more. Anyway, maybe for your hubby's sake could you give him some satisfaction if you can possibly even make yourself do it for him. I am sure it is tough to get yourself in the mood, but he obviously needs it pretty bad. Just make sure this whole thing doesn't cause problems between you two.

It is really hard to get your dh to understand what you are going through sometimes I know. Fortunately my dh has actually been pretty good about everything even the messy house.

I pray something works out for you both and you can come to some kinda agreement. <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/biggrin.gif">

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Old 02-18-2003, 02:32 PM   #3
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Oh my goodness. I know exactly how you feel. In early pregnancy, I was TOO tired always. But in the late 3rd and 4th months, I had a huge libido surge, and DH was loving it. Lately, however, I have had no desire AT ALL. It's the strangest thing. It's like my body is saying "I've got what I want, why do I need sex anymore?" I have grown SUPER sensitive to touches in the sexual areas, and I can barely stand that kind of contact, like it's almost too much. Not to mention that my nipples feel really weird right now when they're touched. It's like they're saying "We're not sexual objects, we're here to feed this kid." DH has been very understanding. He's wonderful, but the major issue is my guilt over him having to go without. I wonder if it will get any better.....

 
Old 02-18-2003, 02:36 PM   #4
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Oh, and I agree with Angel. I have made myself do it a few times. I just kind of explain beforehand "Please don't touch my nipples and I don't want to orgasm because I don't particularly enjoy the contraction afterwards." That gives him the goahead to get things over with quickly, which is what I want, and what men want sometimes. And it makes us both feel better.

 
Old 02-18-2003, 02:42 PM   #5
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Yeah it isn't always the easiest thing to make yourself when you don't feel like it or up to it, but in the long run it will be better I think. You can always use KY to help with lubing if need be too.

I agree with Siren too just give him parameters and maybe it would help you too.

It's tough but you also need to think about what your dh is going through and be understanding there too and make some kinda bargain and meet in the middle if possible. You don't want him to get feel rejected because of the baby.

I pray all works out and you can keep peace in your household!!! <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/biggrin.gif">

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Old 02-18-2003, 02:47 PM   #6
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I have totally lost my libido and I feel really bad for DH. I used to be the sexual aggressor, so he's pretty confused now. However, I've never seen him try to please quite so much as he has lately. He really puts a lot more effort into it now - I'm hoping he'll keep it up when my sex drive comes back.

 
Old 02-18-2003, 03:12 PM   #7
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I guess I can try to do it for him but it just makes me feel kind of repulsed when I'm not in the mood and I do it out of sympathy sake. If he wasn't in the mood for sex then I wouldn't just hop on him and expect him to perform. I don't know, ill talk to him again when he gets home from work.

 
Old 02-18-2003, 03:33 PM   #8
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Funny Baby vs. Penis Story: This woman came into the E.R. in labor and the baby was crowning!! Her husband trailed behind her mad as all hell! She got right in of course. Turns out he was ticked because they were having sex and she kept complaining of pain and discomfort during the romp so she made him stop. The baby's head was deceding as he as penetrating her!!!! She was 10cm and in full blown labor!! I know I know! SOoooooooo then he remianed ****** for not getting his fix I guess or did he because the baby had to be taken to the NICU for observation.....her lungs had a "mix" of fluids in them. Um take it however you want!

Beyond that I know the lack of libido feeling. My friend and I call ourselves the Sofa Sisters Club sometimes. If you tend to, oops, fal asleep on the couch then they tend to try and wake you, but you stay asleep. Some men try to carry you so if they do then remain DEAD asleep and flop on the bed and act passed out and they give up. If they didn't attempt carrying you you should be in the clear! Don't do it too much or your pregnant body will seek revenge!

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Old 02-18-2003, 10:21 PM   #9
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Marie, I could see some guys acting that way. LOL.

I know, I agree, it does feel a little repulsive when you don't want to do it. I'm not at all suggesting to do it all the time. I don't. Just every now and then, I give in and act like I enjoy it. My husband gave me this baby less than a month after the wedding, even though he thought we should wait. I kind of feel like I owe him in a way. Plus, we are still newlyweds, and the end of Sept. to mid Oct. didn't give us a whole lot of "newlydwed" time if you know what I mean. So, he gave me this baby, I can give him a warm body every now and then until I get my libido back. LOL. That's my take on it.

 
Old 02-18-2003, 11:31 PM   #10
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Siren, I'm in the same boat. Got married September 7th, conceived this baby December 28th.

 
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