I am a little concerned that some people may be blinded by their doctors opinions. In the topic about Benadryl use during pregnancy, there were posts that actually said Benadryl is perfectly safe and others that said it was not. When we ask questions of our peers in this forum, they expect opinions ansd should be given just that- opinions. I asked about Claritin and Zoloft to hear what other people thought and to find out what their doctors may have told them. I got just what I was looking for- opinions. Don't let anyone tell you that certain drugs are safe--i.e.: I was told NOT to take either Tylenol PM or Benadryl unless it was an emergency. I am not saying this is the right advice for everyone, just to take these message boards in stride. They can be helpful in gathering information, but dangerous if you take other people's advice as if they were doctors. We don't know if the person asking a question may be a pregnant teenager who has yet to seek prenatal care, so use caution in giving your opinions.
Technically I am a preg. teenager..19 to be exact...and married. So I guess it should be cleared up that some preg. teenagers can get prenatal care on time and good quality care at that. I thought you understood when you logged on you were getting people's experiences and opinions. I am sorry if you feel that my answer didn't suit you. But that is no reason to go on a rampade against doctor's advice. If you feel taking Tylenol PM or Benadryl isn't safe don't. I myself chose to take these meds WHEN NEEDED. I gave birth to a healthy baby boy and I had to take many drugs..not by choice.. throught the course of my preg. I was VERY sick and had MANY shots of Demerol and other things. I guess I was giving my experience and going by what I have been told. I didn't intend for people to believe that I was Moses coming from the moutain and EVERYONE should follow my advice. EVERY preg. is different. I am having my 2nd child and this preg. is way different from the first. Right now I am on antibiotics and cough medicine. Yes, I am going to trust my doctor and feel safe that these drugs will not kill my unborn child.(Hey he/she may have 3 eyes but what the h#ll! <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/smile.gif"> ) I guess I just don't understand why you come in and ask for opions and experiences and then bash people who give you theirs. Just read the posts and decide what is best for YOU and leave the rest behind. There are many people on this board who have different opinions..take me and Molly we always seem to be on the opposite side of the coin...but I am always interested in what she has to say b/c she goes to a midwife and may have a different experience. I am not saying your doctor is the final word but if you don't want the opinions of other people don't ask for them. Sorry if this is coming off as b@tchy but I was not trying to tell you what to do I was just sharing my opinion with you. I also didn't appreciate the preg. teenager comment. Some women years older than me are not responsible enough to go to their doctor for good prenatal care. Blanket statements like the one you made was rude(but that is just in my opinion)!
Smile, life doesn't last that long.
Awww purrbaby, dont be offended. I dont think she was referring to you as the pregnant teen here. lol. Just for the record, Im pretty well educated in this-25, married, 2nd child, regularly receiving prenatal care which has included all my visits, glucose screening, and 2 ultrasounds up to this point. My doc says the stuff is fine and I do trust her. At this time, I am opting to avoid meds as much as possible. But when I was a teen I had cancer and my immune system is crap since then, so I tend to get sick alot. Sometimes i have to weigh my options,and I do pretty badly on no sleep, so if things are very rough, I may take an approved medication. I just wanted some more input. I like getting info from physicians as well as "everyday people". But I take your advice in stride--we all have a responsibility towards each other, to help keep each other informed and safe, if possible. But Ive got a pretty good basis--just looking for a little extra info. Thanks you guys!
I knew my comments would be misconstrued. Purrbaby- I in no way meant you. When I said a pregnant teen I was saying that there may someone on the boards who is using it as their only source of medical advice. I was saying that it is necessary to say that these answers are our opinions so that people know to look at all their options. And don't say that I do not value peoples opinions- I would not have asked questions of all of my peers here had I felt that way. And don't accuse me of making blanket statements- if I was to address every possible scenerio one by one, it would be impossible. I want to reiterate that we are here to help one another, and that my posting was merely a warning to look at every option.
I totally agree with your post. I think some people get overly offended. We all have our opinions and that is what is wonderful about these boards. I tend to have a difference of opinion a lot! I am not trying to bash anyone else's opinions, but I like to say what I think. I got totally chewed out from a 15 year old who thinks she might be pregnant, and I apologized. But it is how I feel. I get overly emotional about things like that. And it turns out, and I really don't want to sound mean, but she sleeps around a lot!!! I knew it from the way she sounded. I told her that if she isn't pregnant now, then unless she changes her ways, she will be soon. That's the truth. Sometimes people don't want to hear it. She didn't want to hear it at all. Also, I always have to keep in mind that people don't want to be lectured. This girl didn't want to be lectured, but I dug into her anyway, and I said I was sorry afterward. Sometimes I get so irritated with people's ignorance.
As for the medication thing, I am opposed to taking medication of any kind unless it is ABSOLUTELY NECESSARY. Even when not pregnant. I think, and I am NOT referring to anyone on this board because I don't know any of you personally, that many, many people are looking for a quick solution and don't give it another thought. But I tend to be in the minority on my viewpoints. And believe me, I do take medicine once in a while. Hell, I take Tums 5 times a day for this wonderful heartburn!!!
If someone can't take a different opinion with a grain of salt, then they are either insecure or overly emotional. And this board is harboring many overly emotional women - WE'RE PREGNANT!!
Molly, so true about the emotional part. I wasn't offended though. As for that 15 year old, I was shocked when she chewed you out. But that is definately a reflection of her maturity level. Sad thing is, she will probably end up pregnant, as a good scare just does not seem to do it for alot of these girls. My mother is a therapist who does alot of work in our local school systems. She says alot of these young girls have babies because its actually kind of the cool thing to do right now. Then when they have the babies, they treat them like accessories: take them to school ball games, the mall, and then drop them off at home with grandma so they can go be teens. Anyway, you have yet to be out of line. Take care.
Thanks Hilarynotclinton. I feel so sorry for these boys and girls. It's funny how age can really make a difference. I remember when I was that girl's age, I was a total stubborn, ignorant fool. I always did alright in school, and had a good group of friends. I was not on the "the other side of the tracks", but I still put my parents through Hell! I only had one boyfriend for 5 years, and we always used protection, but even then, the emotional ties that come with having sex can be too much for a girl that age. I am so thankful that I had parents who set rules and kept to them. They always respected me and loved me, but they definately made me angry because I didn't get my way. It sounds like this girl has no one to set examples for her. Of course I don't know her, but as I read more and more of her posts, I can see that she has been from one boy to the other, and is going to get very hurt. That's the reason I kind of lashed into her. I think sometimes people need to get "slapped in the face" to get shaken up and smell the coffee. I felt bad though, because I obviously hurt her feelings. I never want to do that.
I think it's a very sad society that we live in if girls think it's the "cool thing" to do getting pregnant. What are they thinking? Who are their parents? I pray to God I can be there for my daughter, and this next baby, when they need guidance. My experience with things hopefully won't be used against me. I just feel so lucky to have had, and still have the loving family I have. Kids need rules, limits, and interference, and most of all, respect and love. This is getting lengthy, and I'm hoping this poor girl doesn't get offended again if she reads my post. But if she does, it's because she doesn't want to acknowledge the truth. Sex really is something to be taken very seriously. Hopefully we don't see another post from her in a few months asking for help because she's pregnant.
I guess I do get overly offended about the whole preg. teenager thing b/c most people assume that since I am 19 having my 2nd child that I'm not married and on welfare. Which does tend to drive me crazy. Plus, I know a few girls who got preg. young..one as young as 15..who took good care of themselves and got the prenatal care they need. I think people don't really understand that most teenagers who get preg. get good care b/c the gov't. has so many programs to help them and many have families to fall back on. But enough on that. I do feel bad for that 15 year old and I know there is a good chance she will end up preg. That is so sad. But like my mom told me..if you had kept that penny between your knees this wouldn't be happening.
Smile, life doesn't last that long.