The news is that "Baby Casandra" past away on Friday. She was struggling for three days before her mother and father decided it was better for them to take her off the vent. The medical staff was angry about this too. On Friday they tried and tried to contact the mother and could not. She and the father finally turned up at the NICU stating that she was out shopping and she held up and outfit that she bought for the baby and said, "Isn't it cute?" and they all just were stunned and she went on to say that, "Yeah I bought it for her to be buried in". OKAY you do that after!!!!!!! She was struggling and you were out shopping! Her brain bleed had gotten worse and her lungs could not even survive on the vent so.....ugh I am so sick about this. How selfish can you be!!!!!!! The co-worker of my mom's went to se her on Thursday and brought her a Beenie Baby. She said Casandra was just looking straight ahead...eyes wide open. The nurse said, "Yes...they're open.... for now". I pray she felt nothing. AND themother would not even cradle her after they took her off the vent. Finally they convinced her to and so she did. She had no intention of letting her baby feel what it was like to be HELD even in her dying breath! It took a nurses co-ersion (sp). She is so much better off now. I am so sad for herway of passing. I hope and pray God had her at peace before she even officialy went so that she didn't have to experience and pain. Maybe by us praying this is what God thought would be best. We all prayed for what was best you know.
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Marie
Baby's Arrival Expected August 2, 2003
Oh what a sad thing! <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/frown.gif"> That poor little sweetie sure tried to make it, didn't she? Well like you said we did pray for what is best and now she doesn't have to feel anymore pain or deal with the pain from that woman who brought her into the world.
That woman needs to be taken out and slapped!! I wish they could court order her to get her tubes tied!!! It's a good thing we all can't get a hold of her!!! <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/mad.gif">
O.k. I better stop!!! God has her wrapped up in His arms and that is awesome!!!!
God Bless,
Angel <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/angel.gif">
edd 8/1/03
I am glad she is with God now. I'm sure it is better than going through life knowing your mother didn't care enought about you to get proper medical treatment.
Maybe the baby's that we miscarried are her friends now.
I usually cringe when people say that someone is "better off" when they die, but in this case it's probably true. Imagine her with physical and mental disabilities and having to be taken care of by a mother like hers.
I was so sorry to read this post <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/frown.gif"> I KNOW she is now in GOD'S arms.
Keep your chin up Marie, and know that at least this poor baby had someone love her while she was alive. I'm sure she could feel the love you gave her. It must have felt like a wave of warmth washing over her.
Long story, but my mom works at the Hospital where I took my daughter to the ER. I also used to work there. In the urgent care bed across from us, a girl was clearly in labor and I wondered why she was in urgent care for that. Turns out she lied and said it was a UTI. Staff had no clue she was PG or how far along. The baby was born right in front of my eyes. It was sereal and yet disheartening. I never will forget it. So because my mom works there I had access to getting updates and because it is a small world after all, I just happened to know my mom's co-worker and the aunt of the baby from high school and my mom's co-worker also knew the aunt from school. So she would talk to the aunt and get updates as well.
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Marie
Baby's Arrival Expected August 2, 2003<p>[This message has been edited by lovelyme (edited 02-10-2003).]
I'm sooooo sorry to hear this story <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/frown.gif"> I do believe that God does everything for a reason and maybe that reason was b/c he knew the kind of mother she would've grown up with---no child deserves a parent who doesn't care, they don't choose who gets to raise them and love them. My prayers are with you, God Bless <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/angel.gif">
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EDD July 9th <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/smile.gif"><p>[This message has been edited by newlittlemomma (edited 02-10-2003).]
