Soo, my hubby and I have been trying to get pregnant for the last two months. We've actually been waiting to do this for 3 years due to money issues. Finally, we're in a good place and decide to start trying. At any rate, I'm suppose to start my period in 3 days. Normally at this point I would be flying off the handle with PMS craziness. Usually, I get very very emotional and feel angry at the smallest things. That's not happened this time around. We have two other children, and I never had any symptoms with either of them aside from a missed period. Last month, I was very disappointed to find out we didn't get pregnant. I'm dying to test, but hubby says not until I've missed a period by at least 2 days late. I definately understand his line of thinking on that, but I'm going crazy waiting! While he's eager, he has no idea how nuts a woman can get waiting to know. <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/smile.gif"> That's why I thought I'd come and post here. Hoping you all can give a little support while I wait this out. I'd be *really* disappointed with another negative. My first two, we got pregnant the first try. This time, it's not been that easy. (Two C-Sections could affect that, I've read -- Make it harder to concieve) Well, long winded, I know. Sorry about that!
My husband is exactly the same way. he always tells me to wait for a week after my period was to begin. like i even listen to him. but RELAX RELAX, if you are anything like me you are just going to drive yourself crazy thinking about being pregnant. GOOD LUCK it is only 3 days, you can do this LET US KNOW
I know it is hard waiting. I took tests without my husband knowing because I knew he would freak if he knew how many I was taking and how much money that is down the drain. If only I could be patient! I'm not suggesting you go behind your husband's back at all, I just wanted to let you know that we understand your frustration. But if you do wait, you won't be sending money down the drain. You could always have a blood test taken for about 50 bucks. They can be taken as early as 8 days after conception.
You know, I thought about going ahead and buying the test. But if it was negative, I'd feel silly for not listening in the first place. <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/smile.gif">
The past couple of days I've noticed a couple of things. My breasts are tender (but they usually are right before my period) and for the last two nights, even with the heat turned down, I've woken up literally drenched with sweat. That's never happened before, but I know it could be from PMS too. That's what is so difficult for me. No abnormal symptoms. I didn't have any with the other two either, and it's driving me crazy! The only abnormal thing is not getting angry so easy like I normally would. Usually, by this point I *really* have to watch everything I say and do to make sure I'm not being unreasonable. There's been none of that. (Thankfully, really)
Only a couple more days though, and I'm half looking forward to finding out for sure and half afraid. (You know, in case I'm not pregnant) I don't remember being so impatient with the other two. Maybe it's because this is going to be our last?
Thanks for your responses and support, too. It really does help to know other people go through this. <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/smile.gif">
I feel for you. I know exactly what you are going through because I am too. Its funny because I have noticed the last couple of nights that I have woke up sweating too...how unusual. I'm not sure if you have read my other postings but, I took a Confirm hpt 2 days ago (period isnt due until Friday the 11th) and they were both faintly positive. Now I have read that that Brand gives evaporation lines. I took 2 other tests, 1st Response early detection and an EPT and they both have been negative, so I will try again if I miss my period. I too have had swollen and tender breasts for about 2 weeks but the pain is going away. Also I have been charting my temp and it has been dropping the last 3 days, so right now its 50/50 ya know. I'll be thinking and praying for you.
Take care and good luck!
I really don't want to get your hopes up too high in case you aren't pregnant, but I think waking up in the night sweating is a true sign. I never get that with PMS. In fact, I tend to get really cold right before my period. I noticed waking up really hot and immediately had the feeling I was pregnant because the only other times this has happened, I have been! And I think this happens fairly early too. It's strange how it's never mentioned as one of the typical symptoms of early pregnancy in books (at least not the ones I have) because it seems pretty common.
Blah. I just need to vent, I think. I just talked to my mother and thinking I'd get some support, told her we'd been ttc, and she gets snotty about it. Telling me that *I'm* going to tell my father about it, not her. Just in general, being very negative about the entire thing. I totally don't understand. She says things like: 'I don't have the money for more clothes' and such. She *does* buy my other two clothes, but not because I've ever asked her or because we couldn't do it. She just does. Silly, I thought she was doing it because she wanted to. She goes to the thrift shop twice a week and brings home bags of stuff. She's done this since they were babies. We've never bought the kids clothes because she buys so much we don't have enough room in their dressers. She doesnít ask if we need it, she just buys it. She has never bought diapers, formula or anything else. She buys a ton of toys too, which means we don't buy those. But we don't *ask* her to. We pay our bills, have a nice place to live, our kids are well taken care of and I just don't understand her negativity.
In the meantime, my brother and his wife live with my parents with their 9 month old son. My parents supply them with everything. Literally. My brother makes almost 10 thousand dollars a year more than my husband does, and his wife works too. My parents buy diapers, formula, food..the works. Yet, she states time and time again she doesn't mind helping them because they need it!?! In the meantime, we do without things like cable, our internet connection is free through my husband's job and we don't even have long distance on our phone. (Iím not saying that like weíre martyrs, but we go without that stuff because we want to/need to in order to allow me to stay home with the kids) Our pantry is stocked with food, our apartment is clean and aside from being hyperactive (our daughter, that is) we have wonderful kids. They're respectful and funny and smart.
I just don't get my mother at all. She's ruining this for me because if I'm pregnant, she's not going to be happy and if I'm not, then I'll know she's happy that it didn't work out. (Sigh) I know I am venting, and I'm sorry. I guess my feelings are just hurt, and telling my husband is not an option. He already gets upset about how she treats me. For heaven sake, I'm 27 years old, been married since I was 20 with very few marital problems. You'd think she be..I dunno. Happy, maybe?
Okay, done venting. For those who made it through this post, thanks for reading.
Sorry to see you so upset. I understand where you are coming from though. I told my mom that we were ttc#1 and she said, "but you dont have a job". Which surprised me because I dont see how it is relevant. Anyway, I do understand and sympathize with you, but if you can at all, please try to relax. It sounds like your mom really wants to give to you, your new (potential) baby and your family, shes just freakin out now because she may be afraid she wont be able to spoil everyone at one time equally. I'm definitely not taking her side, just trying to help. If time allows, try to take a relaxing bubble bath.
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Hey, fingerscrossed. Thanks for the support about the Mom situation. I'm not so upset about it now.
As the day progresses, I'm starting to feel a bit crampy and cranky. I'm hoping the cranky is because I stayed up way to late last night, and only got a couple hours of sleep. Cranky and Crampy together don't seem like a very good thing at this point though. If I don't start by tomorrow evening, I'll go ahead and buy a test and take it on Saturday morning. That way, at least I'll know something.
Fingerscrossed, let us know what's up with you too! <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/smile.gif">