Know that this is normal and that everyone did what you are doing. What will help you to relax is going to your first appt and usually they do an ultrasound. Seeing that it is all indeed reall puts everything at ease!
Baby's Arrival Expected August 2, 2003
I don't have any advice for you seeing as though I'm a first time mom-to-be myself, but I just wanted to let you know that your not alone!
I'm thinking about getting a pregnancy yoga video and see if that might help me to relax. Because I know all this added stress isn't due me or the baby any favors.
Kris31, you are not alone. I think Heaven-sent and I are becoming basket cases and convinced ourselves that we are having twins ( at 5 and 6 weeks along).
I ham so happy about being pg but it seems like the past few days all I can do is worry. Am I eating right, eating enough good foods, did the glass of wine I had at New Years stay in my system, is my child going to be healthy, was the bath I took last night too hot, am I doing anything wrong? And on, and on, and on.. I am sure I need to chil out but that it is also normal.. I have heard that it means we will be better mothers..
It's perfectly normal to be concerned about your baby and the pregnancy. I'm six weeks now and am constantly thinking about it. In fact, I sneezed this afternoon and felt a sharp twinge in my abdomen and got all freaked out about it. But I just keep reminding myself that I'm doing everything I can to stay healthy and the rest is really out of my control. You'll probably continue to feel some anxiety throughout the pregnancy, but you just have to figure out a way to deal with it - maybe take Heaven's suggestion and try a relaxing exercise like yoga.
Its so comforting to read these posts! At least I'm not alone in my thoughts! I'm a basketcase too and I'm not even pg yet!!!
This is the problem....We KNOW TOO MUCH!!! The older you become, the wiser you are. You begin to think about all the things that are bad for you and baby and all the information out there can be overwhelming!
When I was pregnant 10 years ago, I never gave it a thought! I didn't even know I was supposed to feel sick until I was 10 wks pg, by then, it was almost over. I FREAKED out when I got my first stretch mark...didn't know that was going to happen either. My dh and I laughed the entire way through a C-Sec video because we thought it was so gross! Guess what? 24 hrs of labor and I was a C-Sec! Had 2 of them now!
My point is, sometimes I think the less you know, the better you are. I don't know if you can do anything to change it. And once the baby arrives, your fears are still there, it just shifts more to the baby. (My dh used to tease me for running to the baby's room every time I heard a squeak. He said, "oh, jeez, the sheetrock might fall off the ceiling and land in the crib!" I know, stupid, but I was terrible.
Take comfort in God and tell yourself that what will be will be. (Do as I say and not as I do!). I keep telling myself that I won't get that bad this time, but I'm falling into the same old patterns!!! I'm wondering if the hot tub was too hot for my follies and I haven't O yet! DUMB!!!
Ha! Let me know if anyone has a way to calm down because I'd try anything! -J
Hey all!! <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/wave.gif"> It is totally natural to worry and boy did I in the beginning too. But don't let it consume you to an unhealthy level. The book Chelle suggested is awesome and highly recommended. It answers practically any question you will come up with and gives so many wonderful tips. Plus there are numerous websites that have major info.
Yes once you see your baby on that u/s you will feel a lot better, but yes you will still continue to worry. I mean like I've said before we are carrying such precious fragile cargo that it's tough not to worry.
But for all your sanitys and the babys please try to calm down some please and just try to be sensible with what you do.
Go soak in the tub - as long as the water doesn't make you all red and that your body temp doesn't get over 120 you are o.k. Besides I think we have a bit of a special mechanism that warns us when our temp is getting too hot.
We are all here for you when you have any questions or concerns!! Let's try to get each other through these interesting and neurotic times!! LOL <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/dizzy.gif">
Before you know it you will feel your baby move and what a feeling!!!! This is my first and right now my little one is doing sommersaults or something - sure being active - feels like a swarm of butterflies!!
O.k. I better stop now, so have a wonderful day and please, please try to relax some!!!!
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The only thing that I am worrying really bad about is that i've had really really bad m/s for the past week and a day now. Throwing up twice, three times a day. It's started to subside yesterday as I only threw up once and the day before only once but I'm just worried that the baby is getting really hungry and I'm going to starve it. I mean, i'm 5'8, 185 pounds so there's plenty of reserves to keep me and a little one alive for a few days. Haha, but I'm just so scared. I'm going to start some chinese medicine on saturday and if that doens't help try accupuncture. The naturopath told me that my heartrate is high because I have an overactive liver because my m/s isn't tolerating acidic food well, so therefore my liver has to work twice as hard. Hmm..learn something every day! Anyways, I don't know if anyone else has felt his way!
Hi babygrant, How far along are you? Just curious because I'm about 6wks and haven't experienced MS. I know for some it starts later or never starts at all. Anyway, a close friend and my sister-in-law were both very sick during their pregnancies and had lots of problems with vomiting. They just accepted it as one of the unfortunate symptoms of pregnancy and figured out the best way to stave it off. And they both had healthy babies. Good luck!
What Crazy said is SO TRUE! We do know too much.
I'm a 33 year old first-timer, so I've had the chance to hear every possible birth-related horror story ever told.
Another side of the coin is the fact that, because of my age, people expect me to actually know what I'm doing!
The other night I had a dream that we'd had the baby, and we'd sent it to the babysitters and forgot about it for 3 days! We didn't remember we had a baby until the babysitter called and reminded us to come and pick him/her up! I actually woke my husband up because I was so disturbed. Now it just sounds funny. <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/rolleyes.gif">
YEAH finally a So Cal girl!!!!! Now we can live up the nice weather together although the winds have been quite brisk. I am truly an Anaheim girl. Never lived anywhere else until this last year. I hung out alot in Balboa though as a teen. My friend and I were just thinking back on all those days. I gotta get my daughters (ages 2 and going on 4) out there soon! I'll wait until the coastal weather increases a bit. SO GLAD to finally have a Orange County chick around!
Baby's Arrival Expected August 2, 2003
Wow, i too am releived to here i'm not the only one totally stressed out. I'm 7 week pregnant and sometimes even going to the doc's office doesn't make me feel releived that i'm doing ok. Of course i come to the message board then i feel better. I'm really glad i read this message...i don't feel alone now.