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Old 02-15-2002, 07:38 AM   #1
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Im pregnant, uncomfortable, tired, and darnit, Im gonna complain!!!!

Im 6 months pregnant, have had a pretty big growth spurt lately (ow my back!!), am exhausted- getting up early to get my daughter to school and going straight to work afterwards 5 days a week and I am at my WITS END!! My husband was off yesterday, all day, and he didnt do anything, including clean up the messes he made throughout the day. He claims he did laundry but it looks more like he threw the laundry all over the garage. I got up this morning (at the crack of dawn as usual) and had to take out the trash,while stepping on all his crumbs (ewwww), wash his dishes, pick up his stuff, etc. Im soooooooo tired. I never get enough sleep, and when I come home at the end of the day, I have cleaning, and cooking to do , not to mention caring for my daughter. I cry alot because Im hormonal, but mainly because Im tired, and hubby is always asking me what he can do to help. But when it comes down to it, he makes things harder half the time. I love him, I really do, but sometimes its easier when he is at work. And, I swear, my 5 year old doesnt mess things up 1/5 as much as my husband. She is a piece of cake to deal with. Doesnt he understand HOW FREAKING TIRED I AM!!!!!!! Cause I cant even describe how tired I am--I feel like im gonna collapse!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 
Old 02-15-2002, 07:50 AM   #2
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Re: Im pregnant, uncomfortable, tired, and darnit, Im gonna complain!!!!

I know how you feel. My dh thinks since I'm a sahm, that it's my job to do everything, and that he doesn't have to help w/anything! I bust my a$$ every day, doing laundry, cleaning, dishes, cooking 3x a day, vaccuuming at least 2x a day, and a ton of other stuff. Sometimes I'm so tired I barely have the energy to take off my clothes at the end of the day. I'm actually looking forward to this fall, when Maddie starts preschool so that I won't have all 3 of my children underfoot all day long. Does that sound bad?

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Old 02-15-2002, 09:17 AM   #3
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Re: Im pregnant, uncomfortable, tired, and darnit, Im gonna complain!!!!

lol maggie, no it does not sound bad, but I bet you find you miss the heck out of that kid while she's at preschool. I hate that my daughter goes to school full-time now, even if it means she is underfoot less. Us moms are total martyrs. lol

 
Old 02-15-2002, 10:18 AM   #4
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Re: Im pregnant, uncomfortable, tired, and darnit, Im gonna complain!!!!

I'm a sahm too. And I do what I can, but cleaning has never been my thing. You ladies seem to be doing a lot more than me and I commend you for it. Hillary, what would happen if you left your husband's mess for HIM to clean up? I know it's almost impossible because we find it so darn annoying!! But he needs to know that he can't do that and expect you to be his maid! I get so irritated when men do that. My husband included, although he's a workaholic, even when he's home so he does clean once in a while. But I swear I can't think of anything to make for dinner anymore, it's either tacos, hamburgers, spaghetti, or something simple. I used to love to cook - although that's when I would be in the kitchen with wine too, now I don't drink, not just because I'm pregnant. I would love to be taken out to dinner once a week. Granted I really havn't been pulling my weight around here lately. Yesterday I thought I was going to lose my mind with my daughter. I can't believe I actually did this, but I gave here her Valentine present which had some little chocolate hearts included first thing when she woke up I said it would be OK if she ate one. Then she snuck another. And then she wouldn't eat any breakfast. The day was shot. I was extrememly tired yesterday because I got awakened 3 times during the night to help my daughter. We had a playgroup which was great for 2 1/2 hours, but when we came home I was almost in a coma. I told her I needed to lay down and I put Arthur on for her. I have only done that once before and it was when I was going to lose my mind also. She wouldn't let me close my eyes at all this time. She ate 3 more chocolates at the playgroup and a lolipop. I think she turned into a devil. I know me being so exhausted was making it worse. All she did all day was beg for more chocolate hearts. I swear I am not bringing any candy into the house ever again.
I hope the second trimester will bring some energy back to me. If not I think I will have to start drinking coffee again. I'm dead serious. I would rather be somewhat alive during the day. I feel like I'm neglecting my daughter sometimes too. I play with her, read to her, sing to her before her "nap", which hasn't been happening. That's the other thing, by the time I'm done singing and rocking her she usually is asleep. Now she says, right when I see her eyes closing involuntarily, "I'm not tired", and forces herself to get up. By this time I have rocked and sung myself to sleep practically. So I usually get about two hours to myself in the middle of the afternoon, but not lately. But her bedtime is two hours earlier, which is good. Wow, I'm venting too much. I sound like such a complainer. But I don't care. It feels good to get confirmation from others on this board. When I complain to my husband, he really doesn't say much. Men don't understand what a job our bodies are doing. I'm thinking, how am I going to deal with a baby in 6 months? Oh my god, I don't know if I can. But it will happen, life will go on, and soon our little angels will be grown up and I will be wanting them to be little once again. Just know that whenever you are venting, it is a great release. And it makes the rest of us feel like we're not the only ones going crazy.

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Old 02-15-2002, 12:34 PM   #5
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Re: Im pregnant, uncomfortable, tired, and darnit, Im gonna complain!!!!

Well, my hubby showed up at the office, and at first we argued, then cried, and finally came to some resolutions and had a good talk. I feel ten times better now. My hormonal self was actually considering leaving him! He told me that if I would just talk to him more, then I wouldnt get so upset with him. He is right. I bottle things up until Im about to go nuts and then I explode. One of the reasons I dont talk to him is because my last relationship was very abusive, and complaining to my ex would probably have left me with a black eye or worse. I know my husband wouldnt hurt me, but old habits die hard and I hide rather than argue. My husband knows this and just keeps encouraging me to speak, but its hard. Sometimes I literally feel like my mouth wont work because Im so accustomed to keeping it shut. He just called me to tell me he loves me and is home right now doing stuff! wheee! And of course, part of my problem is that Im feeling quite pregnant (3 months to go) and I just dont think pregnancy is my favorite thing in the world. I feel dumpy tired and emotional. I cant wait to feel like me again. Take care all.

 
Old 02-15-2002, 02:37 PM   #6
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Re: Im pregnant, uncomfortable, tired, and darnit, Im gonna complain!!!!

I am in your same boat Hillary. I have an almost 3 year old and I feel huge and my husband doesn't do s***. His excuse is that he works a lot and doesn't have time. He works two jobs and leaves the house at 5:30 am and is not back till 8:00 pm. He seems to find time to go out with his friends and play b-ball and go to they gym but no time to help me. I always tell him stop throwing things on the floor. I am pregnant and can't be bending down all the time. Put your dirty clothing by the washing machine instead of in a pile in our room. God, the list goes on. Sometimes he does do things but he does it all wrong that I end up doing it again. Oh, and he is a horrible father or atleast I think he is. His idea of quality time with our son is watching a b-ball game while my son tries to get his attention. I want to smack him across the head when I see my son trying to get his attention. Hey a**hole, he is trying to tell you something. Spaced out I tell you. Hillary, now you got me started. The worst is that I can't talk to him because he is always right. Always has an answer for everything. I am trying to get a bit stronger. I won't put his clothing away and I am a lot crabby. I told him if he misses the nice sweet me, he better start helping and if he wants to get lucky more often he needs to help. If he would help then I would not be so tired hense have more energy for sex.

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Old 02-15-2002, 04:38 PM   #7
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Re: Im pregnant, uncomfortable, tired, and darnit, Im gonna complain!!!!

Hey ya'll had to get in on this!! LOL!! At my six week check up after having my son my DH(aka ********) asked the doc to prescribe me something b/c he couldn't handle my mood swings. My doc put him in his place real quick.(Now I remember why I love my doc!!) I tried leaving the messes my hubby makes up to him. They stayed there for 3 weeks!! That method doesn't work. Men seem to not notice mess!! Unless it is to tell you to pick it up. I had to send my son off with a friend all today b/c the smell of formula makes me sick!! Great, huh?? My DH does watch my son all night(the kids sleeps 9 hours straight!!) so I don't have to. But the daytime can kill me. I love my son but right now..one wiff of that "sweet baby smell" sends me running to the bathroom. And of course my son loves the show!! I'm his greatest toy!! Ugg I just can't wait until I show!(that last line was sarcastic..just to let ya'll know) Oh for the back pain 3 things really help. 1) CHIROPRACTOR!!(my fav.) 2) MASSAGE!!!!!!(my most fav.) 3) MASSAGE BY DH(my least fav. LOL) Actually, you can find some massages that aren't that costly. What always makes me feel pretty is to get my hair trimmed...and washed!!...and to get a predicure. The place I go to has this European spa chair and they put you in a half dark room with soothing music and aroma therapy and you soak those swollen tootsies for 30 min. Mmmmmm!! It only costs $25(suprised the he%% outta me!!) I did it once a month..the color lasted that long!! It was the highlight of my month. I beleive every DH should treat his preg. wife to one!! At least once.. preferabely every few weeks!! LOL!!

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Old 02-15-2002, 06:13 PM   #8
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Re: Im pregnant, uncomfortable, tired, and darnit, Im gonna complain!!!!

You guys crack me up! I could've written your replies. Don't you wish there was a workshop we could send our hubbies to and get the one we really wanted? Of course, we would have to find a way to get their sorry a$$es there! <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/dizzy.gif">

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