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Old 01-09-2002, 09:04 AM   #1
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Im not gonna have a heart attact, Im not gonna freak!

For the love of God, Im right smack in the middle of this pregnancy, paying the deductible off on the dr. visits, life is expensive, and my stupid scam artist slacker boss just informed me that they may cut me back in hours BIG TIME! Like, by half. She has mismanaged the funding to our program that badly. Nothing is for sure yet but being hormonal and all, my first reaction was to bawl, and jump off a cliff. Instead, I sit here calmly at my desk, imagining her fat head exploding. Im the only one who even shows up, and does any work. She doesnt even come in, and when she does, she doesnt get anything done. They would completely go under without me. How on earth can I get a new job while obviously pregnant???Shes running our program into the ground, and I get to pay for it. Thanks alot. And being pregnant, thats just the icing on the cake here. Im not gonna freak, IM not gonna freak...

 
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Old 01-09-2002, 09:27 AM   #2
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Re: Im not gonna have a heart attact, Im not gonna freak!

Can you hang in there until you go on maternity leave? Then you can look for something else when you're ready to go back to work. I don't know how it works in the States but here in Canada, women now get an entire year off for maternity with some percentage of the pay.
I think it's cruel and heartless that she's doing this to you while you're pregnant.
Try not to worry too much.. think of the baby.

 
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Old 01-09-2002, 10:01 AM   #3
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Re: Im not gonna have a heart attact, Im not gonna freak!

Well, I cant survive with half-pay for the next 4 months, and my boss is claiming that the cut back is very temporary, maybe for the next month or so, but we cant afford that RIGHT NOW. Ive been given virtually no notice on this, and we are a non-profit organization, and I believe a cut-back in my hours is even illegal due to the fact that my salary is covered by grants. However, fighting that will get ugly, and stress like that for me right now doesnt work very well. I work for a new director, she has managed the money so poorly and spent it on things that weren't necessarily covered in our grants. Now that is illegal, but there's not much I can do. Ive chosen to hang in there, Ive worked here for more than a year, and have been watching her run the program into the ground. Its frustrating, but Ive been telling myself to stick with it until the baby comes, then I may be able to quit work altogether anyway. If she cuts me now, that will be very bad. Later, it wouldnt be a problem. This is so ugly its painful to be a part of. I hate dishonest, incompetent people. Its a shame I work for one. Sometimes I just want to tell her off, but alas, Im in no position to do something like that, so I suck it up and act like I loooooooove her, and do my job. period. She doesnt do hers though, and she will be the death of a once-amazing program.argh

 
Old 01-09-2002, 10:41 AM   #4
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Re: Im not gonna have a heart attact, Im not gonna freak!

My cousin found a great way to get her boss when something like this happened. She wasnt pregnant but they over worked her and wouldnt pay her for the work and then spent money on things they werent suppose and the list goes on. They even had racial problems in which they covered up. Anyway she took notes of everything that was going on that shouldnt have been. Such as the boss not working,hours the boss actually was there,and so on. Well when she lined up another job she turned all the info over to a govt office that protected the workers rights no matter what area they work in. I cant for the life of me remember the name of that office. Anyway they look into to stuff like this and protect your rights. Anyway you should have seen the poo that hit the fan when she did that. The "boss" got fired even. It was great seeing him and the rest get what they deserved. The new person even asked my cousin to come back and promised that things were changing. She told them there was no way she was coming back.
You might want to look into that if you can. And see what happens from there. Or if there is a group that oversees the grants you all get go talk to them. Let them know you want it kept private taht you did come to them. But someone does need to know that the money isnt being spent right and that you are being put in a position that is stressful to you.

 
Old 01-09-2002, 11:18 AM   #5
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Re: Im not gonna have a heart attact, Im not gonna freak!

Ive been over that possibility, and basically I could do exactly the same thing, and I will if I get screwed over. We are funded by the state, as well as other agencies that have specifically allocated those funds to go for supplies, and mainly salaries. The fact that my salary supposedly cannot be pain, means those funds are going elsewhere, and that is illegal. My boss spent a thousand dollars on pens (??????) and 90 dollars per month on a cell phone for her (which she has lent to her daughter on many occasions), she signed our organization up for a newspaper subscription including sundays, which she ended up getting delivered to her house???!!!! And there's much more. she works about 10 hours a week total but gets paid for 40. she claims that she comes in after hours to supplement the days she misses, but that does not happen. I have my spies, and she is not here. Her other daughter is in jail and frequently makes collect calls to our office. argh. I just dont want the drama and the stress of it all, and wont report any of this until I know for a fact that Im almost out of a job, or cut back. But I know exactly what to do if need be. I will fight back in the end. Id just rather it not come to that until the baby gets here, and I can get out peacefully. thank you for the advice. its good advice. fortunately, I have good allies here who have already guided me in that direction.

 
Old 01-10-2002, 05:41 PM   #6
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Re: Im not gonna have a heart attact, Im not gonna freak!

Awww Hillary. I'm so sorry to hear what's going on with your job. That's ridiculous. <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/frown.gif">
I work in the Silicon Valley and my entire department was let go when I was 7 weeks preggo. With the sudden job shortage over here and my now very obviously pregnant belly I'm finding it impossible to find work. Who wants to hire someone that'll be gone in months?!!! My fiance has had to suddenly pick up all my bills, insurance costs, etc. and cover me financially 100%.
Does anyone know of a way to get a job when obviously pregnant? I'm running out of ideas here.
Anyway, I know the stress you're feeling and it's not good for you or I or our babies, so please keep in mind that it allllllll happens for a reason (ridiculous to think right now, I know). I'll keep you and your family in my prayers. And whatever happens be strong and be woman!!!!!! <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/wink.gif">

Much love,
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Old 01-10-2002, 07:09 PM   #7
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Re: Im not gonna have a heart attact, Im not gonna freak!

I'm sorry to hear what's going on with your job. Sounds like you have your head on straught about it though. WHat to do and so on. I was just going to say the same as the message above "it all happens for a reason". I really believe that. Sometimes it feels like the worst thing that could happen but in the end it all works out. Keep the faith & hang in there. Oh yeah, here's another saying I live by... "what goes around comes around". People usually get whats coming to them. Take care and know your have friends here!

Tracy

 
Old 01-11-2002, 08:37 AM   #8
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Re: Im not gonna have a heart attact, Im not gonna freak!

Andrea, I know that if I lose this job soon I will not be able to find something else, due to my belly as well. I make 9 dollars an hour, and around here, office work usually pays alot less. Noone will hire me like this, despite the legal rights of the pregnant woman in this day and age. I mean, really, they arent going to TELL others that you got weeded out after an interview for being preggers, so how would you prove it? I got a job while 4 months pregger with my first child the old fashioned way--I hid it until I was hired. They werent mad either. But now Im definately too big to hide it. Take care.

 
Old 01-11-2002, 11:47 AM   #9
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Re: Im not gonna have a heart attact, Im not gonna freak!

I'm glad to hear you were able to hide it and they weren't mad after the hired you!
I get a lot of bites on potential jobs and have had 2 CEOs almost hire me over the phone, but they somehow lose my number once I show up for the interview with a second person under my outfit. It should be illegal somehow. I hate it. <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/frown.gif">
Going from $72,000 a year to $0 is a hard hit, especially with a baby on the way. And now the state has denied me unemployment benefits, so I have a court hearing to fight it. My only hope is that the judge will have sympathy on me when I come waddling in, so I can start getting a tiny check each week to help out somehow. *sigh*
Please keep us posted with your situation. I really hope it works out to your benefit. I'm sure it will. Otherwise we should all get on a plane and fly out there and your boss can be stampeded by 17 angry pregnant women. Good luck, sweetie!

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Old 01-11-2002, 01:29 PM   #10
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Re: Im not gonna have a heart attact, Im not gonna freak!

lol. If my boss fouls things up too badly around here, she will probably get stomped by my husband and mother as well. Both are enraged at her for 1) stressing me out in my "delicate" condition (lol!) and 2) being such a deceitful, dishonest, self-serving snake in the grass. We consider ourselves to be straight-forward, honest, and most importantly decent people (my family) and people like my boss make our stomaches turn. At this point, Im just upset that I have to be exposed to her Melrose Place way of life on a daily basis. She always has some drama going on whether it be her hypochondriac illnesses, family problems, or god knows what else she creates. And she has to tell you every little detail of it! My mother works in the office next to me (shes a Marriage and Family Therapist) and so she sees and hears everything I complain about. She's officially diagnosed my boss (delusional disorder of some kind) and my mom told me that if I end up getting screwed she will make my boss's time in this office building a living hell! lol. But I may call on some of you all for some boss-stomping as well, as we probably all have a good weight advantage at the moment. lmao. take care.

 
Old 01-14-2002, 11:50 AM   #11
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job update-doesnt look good (I feel like Im gonna hurl over this)

Update to all of you who I have griped at about my dysfunctional job situation: Just found out that a grant that was partially aimed at my salary will not be received due to complaints against our organization. Like I said, I have a boss that spends 10-15 hours in the office, maximum, and DOES NOT WORK! She spent all the money, and I dont think she did it in the way that our grants have dictated it be spent. I may be out of a job. The program I work for is going down the tubes, and Im 5 months preggers! argh! Im not sure what the nature of the complaints are yet--I suspect it has alot to do with my boss and her lack of availability, as well as the simple fact that the program is dying due to her not being here to run it. Alot of our volunteers are sick over this, and I suspect one of them complained. Great. Just what I need. My heart is pounding, I feel sick, and tearful. Im waiting to find out what is going on. My boss is not here,but I passed the phone message regarding the grant on to her. Get this: she is at HOME! She is supposed to be finding out about all this as we speak. Sorry so long. Im biting my nails off here. The timing couldnt be worse on this.

 
Old 01-14-2002, 01:16 PM   #12
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Re: job update-doesnt look good (I feel like Im gonna hurl over this)

I wish I had some words to help you through this. I'm sorry all this is going down. Would you get any kind of severance or anything? Is there a possibility that someone else would be put in charge and you could keep your job? Hang in there and know that people here care.

 
Old 01-14-2002, 02:15 PM   #13
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Re: job update-doesnt look good (I feel like Im gonna hurl over this)

Well, my boss came in and all but accused me of submitting the complaint, which I replied to with "that would be stupid of me due to the fact that a grant cut off including my salary would hurt me duuuuuuuuuh!". Not quite like that though. I went on to say that we should request a copy of the complaint letter, as it certainly is not anynomous. The board president smoothed things over and we will get the money, but this is not a happy place to be and the idiot boss of mine wants me to cover for her when she's not in! I disagree with what she does, and how she does it, but I am not going around submitting complaint letters. Im just trying to hang on to this job for as long as possible, but now Im scared cause I think shes suspicious of me. Did I mention that Im pretty sure she is quite mentally ill--I mean nuts! argh. I still feel sick.

 
Old 03-22-2002, 12:15 PM   #14
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work saga continues-safety issues

Some of you are aware of my dysfunctional work situation. Well, my job is intact, my boss is absent at all times, and I have enlisted the aid of volunteer help to run this program. Unfortunately, my boss's absence has left me alone in our building. The location has me a bit isolated, so I lock myself in the building at all times. We are having a big yard sale fundraiser, and my boss put in the paper that people could arrange to drop off donated items, but that means that the general public will get to come by and see that little old pregnant me is in here by myself accepting these donations. On top of it all, one of our volunteers showed up a couple of weeks ago to talk to me about a case, and proceeded to change the subject to sex and pregnancy. I rushed him out and called my boss who wasnt all that concerened. Lately, Im scared he may stop by again. I want him fired and she says she is working on it, but in the meantime IM here alone as usual. He's been calling to discuss his case, but Im too creeped out to call him back. I email him and told him to email us his info and we would take care of it, but I cant talk to him at this point. I swear to god, noone here cares about my safety at all. Im young, small, pregnant, and a sitting duck. What do I do???

 
Old 03-22-2002, 06:27 PM   #15
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Gosh honey!! I may be small only 5'7" and preg. but I would have knocked the crap out of that guy. I hit someone while I was preg. with my son b/c I thought me or my child might be in danger. My hubby isn't small or preg. and he worries with his job. He too is alone at his job at night when he counts down the safe and does the nightly deposit. They deposit the money in the daytime but he is all alone and he is always worried. When he worked in Memphis he was robbed 3 times 2 times at gun point. And a few months ago another manager in the same chain of stores answered the back door for the delivery guy(so he thought) and was tied up and the money was stolen and he was left in the freezer until the next morning. Not only that but many times the cooks are stoned out of their minds and are ready to fight anyone for any reason and he has had to break up many fights. My hubby wants out of his job. But this is our only source of income. He has looked into the cost of taking the test to sell insurance. We have added up our monthly cost and have started saving..we have $500 more to go. We are getting him out of that situation as fast as we can b/c he needs to be safe for me and for our children. Our kids can handle not having a million toys or cable TV for a few months if it means having their Daddy here for a long time. Seriously, we have cut off a lot of things people think are so important..like our cell phones, cable and we got a prepaid telephone line. We pay 49.95 a month for unlimited calls. This has made it so we can save $300 a month. I would suggest finding a way to leave your job and try to find a new one. I know people don't want to hire preg. people but I got a job while preg. at a maternity store and I can sit down all day to do my job. I would just hate to hear that you got hurt in some way. If leaving your job is too drastic maybe getting a number for a home office is the answer. Your boss can not hold you back from filing sexual harassment with someone over her head. And you can also complain about the unsafe work enviroment and you can insist on someone being there with you while open to the public. I would definetly try to go over this person's head. It may be the boost that she needs to be a better boss. I have seen it happen in my hubby's work enviroment with sexual harassment cases. Unfortunately, the guy still works there..but he has cleaned his act up.

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