I've had sex recently and we used a condom but he came inside of me and I'm not sure how he pulled out, whether he held the condom at the base of his penis or not, which would have kept *** from spilling out.
I'm worried because the day after we had sex I got my period, but would it have come anyways since I had just had sex the day before? OR if I was pregnant would it have not come? It was pretty light and didn't last as long as it normally does...and people have told me my period would come anyways since it would've only been the first day I'd been pregnant. I've also had mono so could that be why my period was so light? I don't know whether to believe that this is all my imagination or not but I'm worried! Any help or advice? It would be appreciated. Thanks a lot and God bless.
Hey Katbabe..... I wouldn't worry TOO much, don't forget, they teach you the MOST fertile time you have is directly in between your periods anyway. I DO know that worrying is only going to make it worse, so TRY to go on as tho nothing is wrong, and see what happens next month. If you do some looking, I hear there are some pregnancy tests that can tell you JUST before your period is due. GOOD LUCK!!!
I am assuming you are very young. If so, then your periods may be very different from month to month. And sure, mono could affect your period. As the years go by you'll realize that just about ANYTHING will make your "friend" change! <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/smile.gif"> Make sure your partner learns how to keep you protected. Don't be shy, speak up and tell him how to work those condoms. The other post states your most fertile time is probably smack in the middle of your periods, and I agree. If you're still worried, buy a brand name pregnancy test (even a few days before your period's due) and put your mind at ease. Good luck.
Thank you all for responding...so are you guys saying it's rare that I'm pregnant? I'm still confused because I've gone onto different sites and it says your period stops completely or is light...soo are you saying I wouldn't have gotten my period at all if I'd gotten pregnant the night I had sex? Sorry I feel like a ditz...I just don't understand totally..thank you all so much...o yeah and I am young. Too young to be pregnant so I'm really scared..(look at the numbers in my username for a hint...) Just kidding..I'm 15...well if you guys would write back I'd really appreciate it! Thanks!
You are right about one thing you are too young to have a child and if you don't want one the only real way to keep from having one is NOT to have sex. If you aren't ready for the responsibility that comes with having a child then you should not do the deed. You are still a child yourself and do not have the resources to raise a child. I have a friend who was 15 when she got preg. and she has had a VERY rough time. I read somewhere that the female body is not fully developed and ready to carry a child until 21. Now that I have said that I will answer the rest of your post. The chances you are preg. are slim to none. If you are really worried take a test and then move on. I truely hope this little scare has persuaded you to rethink your lifestyle. Since you realize you are not ready for a child maybe you don't need to have sex. There are many guys out there who respect girls who don't have sex. Abnstaining from sex until you are mature and stable enough to handle another human life is wise and gives you time to live your own life. Take a look at hillarynotclinton's post on single parenting...it has great insight.
Smile, life doesn't last that long.
If the same thing had happened to me, I would assume I was not pregnant. It is possible though, and if I were you I would take a couple of pregnancy tests... one about 3 weeks after you got your light period, and one about a week later when you're due. I wouldn't worry too much about the what your light period meant, because as a rule your period usually disappears completely during pregnancy. There are some exceptions, Like some girls do have light spotting here and there during the first months, but I don't think it's terribly common. SOOOO... the point I'm trying to make is, odds are you are not pregnant. Purrbaby raised some interesting points in her post about abstinence and your very young age. I agree with her. As a woman somewhat older than 15 (lol) I can say I agree with her. I also remember what it was like to be 15 and sexually active. I wish I hadn't put so much pressure on myself to be sexually active at such a young age... all I thought about was whether or not I was pregnant. I wish I had just enjoyed being young with so few responsibilities. Maybe you should think a little more about what you are doing, hon. I hate to sound preachy, but it would be a shame if you got pregnant at your tender age. Try to enjoy just being a kid for the few short years you have left as a minor. Believe me, you'll have plenty of opportunities for love, lovemaking, and babies when you are older. And guess what... it's way more fun when you're older and better able to handle it. <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/smile.gif">
I wish you the best of luck in everything!
Here is the answer you are truly looking for. Your period can still come if you got pregnant that time since you had sex the day before it was due. The hormones that are produced during pregnancy that stop the period take more than a few hours to build up. So you see your period would still come because your body wouldnt have time to stop it.
You can take a test about 20 days after the time you had sex to see what the results are.
So even though the chances are slim that you got pregnant they are still there.
Thank you all for the advice...it helps...but to tell you the truth I am a lot more mature than you may think. In fact, I'm more mature that my 19 year old sister and I know what I'm doing with my life. I enjoy it just as much with sex in it. I believe I wouldn't enjoy it as much without sex. I may not have the finicial ability to raise a child, but I know if I were pregnant I sure would devote my time and love to the child after it was born, and I know a lot more about how to take care of kids than people may think. I'm definately not saying I'm ready to have a baby at 15, I'm not. I'm just saying you guys are calling me a "child" and a "kid" and I'm not. In fact it's one of my greatest pet peeves. I hate it...that age thing where grown-ups or people even a tiny year older than you treat you differently or talk to you differently...sorry if I seem to be taking this the wrong way...just the way you all seemed to direct your advice to me just makes it seem like you all are talking to me differently now you know my age. I like sex, I'm gonna have sex. I wish I would've waited to lose my virginity sometimes, but other than that it's a part of my life. I live my life just as well with sex in it...sorry if I seem like a I'm being a _____ I just dunno...thank you all for the advice though you have put my mind at ease a lil bit. Plus, at least I use condoms next time I just gotta be positive we are disposing of them the right way. Thanks a lot for the help I appreciate it...write back if you all want to!
I'm not that much older than you and I enjoy sex and everything but under responsible conditions. I am 19 about to be 20 in a month so I'm not that old. I have only been having sex since I was 18 when I got married. I'm not saying sex is only something that should be done inside of marriage but I believe if you have the chance of creating a child you had better have a stable enviroment for it to live in. You showed just how mature you really are in your response. You must know it takes more than love and time to raise a child. Sure the gov. helps a lot. But, what are you teaching a child when you live like that?? It isn't easy to raise a child by yourself. It can be done and many women go on to do great things with their life. And no matter how you protect yourself against preg. you can end up preg. Trust me. You may think you can handle raising a child by yourself you are VERY disillusioned. You may have great parents who will help you out but are they going to raise your child for you?? I'm sure you have great plans for your life. Why ruin it by getting preg. on accident?? I'm sure you love sex..who doesn't? But, that doesn't mean it is the smartest thing you should be doing. You should worry about school and making a good life for yourself. I just came out of high school 2 years ago and I know that the minute you have a boyfriend the temptation to have sex is great..many jelous girls will start rumors that people have sex..and guys can be really persuasive. But I also know many of those guys who say they will be there forever won't. I had 2 boyfriends leave me b/c I didn't have sex. And that was ok. They never loved me anyway. You really should have more respect for yourself and be smart enough to understand that at your age sex is a game to most guys. I'll tell you one thing...the man I married didn't try to have sex with me..even though I gladly would have...he wanted to but we made sure we wanted to be together so that in the event that I got preg. we knew we could stand together and raise a child. Sex between 2 people who love and trust each other is so mush more meaningful than sex between two kids who just want to have an orgasm.
Smile, life doesn't last that long.
I agree with the fact that 15 is too young to be having sex. But the truth is, I was having sex with my boyfriend when I was 15 and luckily I never got pregnant. I'm 33 now. That is such a difficult age as I remember. And you'll probably disagree with me. I felt like I had it all under control. I was so convinced that what I was doing was right and ok. I can't tell you the number of fights I had with my parents about this and other issues. I had to get a diaphram with my MOTHER at the doctor's office. I was more annoyed than anything. And I couldn't understand why my parents were so sad and disappointed. I could handle it.
One thing I have to say is that love can come at any age. It's not just about an orgasm as the last post stated. And I also think it isn't really about respect. I never ever felt disrespected, even by my parents. I never felt disrespected by my peers. And I never disrespected myself for having sex. It's very difficult at your age to distinguish love from infatuation though. I was in love with my boyfriend and we stayed together for 5 years until we finally decided to go our separate ways. The thing is you have to be totally prepared for what you would do if you got pregnant. Would you have an abortion? Would you have the baby and put it up for adoption? Would you keep it? If you don't abstain from sex you need to be fully protected. And you need to understand the consequenses of all of the above solutions. That's what's so difficult about being your age, or any age for that matter until it happens. It's hard to understand until it happens.
So I know you didn't write your post to get a ton of lectures, but when I hear someone who is the same age I was when I started having sex, I have to say something. I don't think you are immature. I don't think you are stupid. It's just that you are young. When I was that age I was very emotionally, hormonally charged. Nothing could have stopped me from doing anything I wanted to do, let alone have sex. Over all I was a good kid, but very romantic at heart. I was easily swept away and I let boys influence my life tramendously. I regret that now a little because I should have studied more, although I think it might have been a genetic thing that I couldn't do anything about.
So anyway, just know the consequenses of what you are doing. Make sure you have protection, and talk to your boyfriend about what would happen if you got pregnant. Most likely, unless he's one of a kind, he'd skip out and leave the baby to you. This is really a lecture and I'm sorry about that.
As for your question about your period, it's very unlikely you would get pregnant if you had your period the next day. The thing is that it takes several days for the fertilized egg to travel down the falopean tube from the ovary to the uterus. In that amount of time, you could have had a period. You would have had to have ovulated the day you had sex (which would have been the day before your period which is virtually impossible) or about 7 days after you had sex (sperm can supposedly live that long) which is technically possible. Some women do ovulate this early, but it's rare. It really depends on how long your cycles are. Are you 28 days? If you are like me and have 45 days from beginning of period to next beginning of period, (full cycle) then you wouldn't ovulate until about the 30th day give or take a couple. But remember that sperm can live for up to 7 days in the woman, so no time is safe if you don't want to be pregnant. I doubt you are pregnant, but you might want to take a test in a couple weeks to be sure. Good luck to you, and I hope you are not offended by my post. It just brings back memories.
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I'm sorry if I sounded mean in my posts. I wasn't trying to be. I guess I hate the thought of all the babies who come out premature b/c their mothers are too young and the babies have problems the rest of their lives. And all the babies in the world who don't get the best care or who are living in foster homes. I just hate to see a young girl throw her life away for sex. I mean, I had hormones and WANTED to have sex but the thought of bringing a child into this world that I couldn't care for was too much for me. I in no way meant to say that the girl was stupid. Obviously she isn't. But, maybe making a small change that would keep her from getting preg. would be good for her. I am sorry if I am strong minded about this. My mother works in a hospital and I have seen the babies of a 13-15 mother whose body was too immature. The babies are identical to crack babies and have many of the same problems. It is heartbreaking. Sorry again...I believe a person shouldn't have sex unless they know they are fully prepared to deal with ALL the consequences.
Smile, life doesn't last that long.
Your beliefs have good intentions Purrbaby, unfortunately they are very idealistic. You were smart to wait, but some of us are too easily swept away. I'm not proud of the fact that I started so young, but I don't think I'm any lesser of a person for it, and no one else does either. In a perfect world there would be no sex before we can handle a baby. But in reality, our hormones and strong emotions are telling us otherwise. In the old days, girls 15 years of age were considered women ready to bear children. But they were living in a support system totally different than we are today. Nowdays, there is infinite sexual persuasion by the media and peers which is sad. You can't get away from it. I am scared for when my daughter reaches that age because I remember how I was. It's so hard for parents to compete. Who at that age thinks their parents are "cool"? I wasn't a follower in anyway in school, but I still did things I pray my daughter has better sense about. I will talk to her constantly and be totally open about what can happen. Hopefully I can dissuade her from some things. She is already as strong willed as me though, so I hope she can listen to me and HEAR me. It's a long way off because she's only 3 1/2, but I'm already worried about it. I agree with you that it is sad and can change a girl's life forever. But in this day and age, it's unrealistic for many young women to abstain. It's more realistic to help them understand consequenses, give them options for birthcontrol, and hope they can make the right decision.
ummmmmm, can I just add one tiny little thing: for the love of God, puhleeeeeeeeeeeeeze do not go out and get preggers at the age of 15. Do it for me, do it for society, do it for your unborn children, most importantly DO IT FOR YOURSELF. Please???Seriously, life is hard enough without taking the hardest route! I speak from experience, not as a teenage mom, but as a former single mom. IM not going to say anything about the sex part of it-I had sex when i was 16 (not that he deserved it!) and was very careful not to get pregnant. No matter how mature I was, I knew that no 16 year old can financially support a child and that welfare wouldnt cut it (my parents are in that tax bracket which leaves them paying more than I earn--they support enough of my state's kids as it is!). I barely felt old enough when I had my daughter at 20. At 25, I wish life were more carefree. Your life is still your own to live, and every decision you make wont make or break your child-because he/she is not here yet! Isnt that a great feeling??? Take care.
I understand all of this...really I do...but I also know I have dreams and ambitions and I'm going to reach those, pregnant or not. I'm gonna care for my child, and love it, no matter what age I am when I have it. I'll devote everything to him or her. And having premature babies happens, but it can happen to anyone. I know so many people who have had babies in the SIXTH GRADE, and their babies were fine. I know more adult woman who have had premature babies than teenagers. Even if my baby was born with a disability, I'd do everything I could for it...my parents are here for me too I hope anyway, even though if I'm pregnant now, the baby will be mixed and they don't approve of that, but aren't racist, and I'm scared about this too. Hearing all this helps me if I'm not pregnant..but what if I am? Even though I'm not sure yet, I have a lot of symtoms of pregnancy:
-feeling nauseated, in the morning and evening
-lower abdominal pain and side pain
and with those symptoms, it seems possible...and no offence but you guys are't making it any better scaring me about it by telling me about all these things...I asked a simple ? and it's turning into this...I'm more worried than I was...but write back cause I'd still like more input about pregnancy...positive things please?
It's hard for anyone in their right mind to find positive things about a pregnancy in a 15 year old. All I can say is good luck. Maybe you should talk to a counselor or someone who is more focussed on helping people in your situation. I can't believe you know "so many 6th graders" who have had babies. Do you understand how sad that is? I was 10 years old in 6th grade. What do you want to know? Just wait and take a test in a couple weeks. I tried to explain the physical aspects of whether or not you could be pregnant. That's all I can do. I think after reading your last reply, that you really need to get your life in order and talk to a counselor. And go see a doctor about your symptoms if you are or are not pregnant. Do your parents know that you are sexually active? Talk to them about it. That's what parents are for whether you believe it or not. I'd say if you are not pregnant now, unless you change your ways, you'll be pregnant soon enough. No one knows whether you can be pregnant or not. We told you it's a possibility, but a slim one. I hope you find some answers, but they won't come from this board. As long as you are a child, which I believe you are, you will get many people lecturing you. I tried to be nice and understand where you are coming from, but after seeing your defensive tone in your last reply, I can see you're not willing to listen to anyone unless they give you exactly the answer you want. I truly hope you don't learn the hard way, for your sake, the baby's and your parents'. Good luck.
I am sorry if my ideas seem old fashioned or impracticle but I have many friends who have done the same thing. I guess since I had the support of people who weren't intrested in having sex it was easier on me. Plus, my mother had to abandon a lot of her dreams b/c of her children. I always swore I would never throw my life away like that. I was hard headed and driven like any other teenager but I guess I had a good support system of friends. I had many times I could and wanted to be sexually active but I know it wasn't best. Maybe my ideas seem unreal and crazy to ya'll but many people have done the same thing. I guess it is better to be completely protected if you insist on having sex. In the 15 year olds case..I truely hope you are not preg. b/c life with a baby is HARD. Even for those who chose to get preg. And I wasn't saying all babies from young mothers are that small. These babies I was talking about were full term and premature(some of both). Sure it can happen to anyone but there is more of a chance that it will happen to an underdeveloped teenager. You would be considered high risk at your age. But hopefully you aren't preg. for your sake.
Smile, life doesn't last that long.
Excuse me Molly but I don't appreciate your smarta** tones and the way your talkin' to me I didn't ask for your rude remarks and I don't appreciate them at all...I was basicly saying that when a girl is askin' for some advice you shouldn't be sayin crap that's gonna scare them or make them worry more because it doesn't HELP THEM AT ALL. So I've got some advice for you: why don't you leave me the hell alone and quit responding to my questions if you're only gonna make things worse? How bout that? And Purrbaby I wasn't directing that to you, I was directing it to my nice friend here, Molly. Well thanks anyway for the advice everybody else but Molly, kiss my a**..
I'm sorry if I offended you Katebabe, but I wasn't trying to use smartass tones. I never meant to hurt your feelings. I'm not sure I understand what your initial questions were. If you read my first reply, you will see that of all the people who responded to you, I was the only one who actually stuck up for you. And I answered your questions about the physical aspects of it as best as I could. It just sounds like you are worried, and if you are pregnant, maybe you should go see a counselor and/or doctor to find out what your options are. Of course I don't know what your life is like, whether you are permiscuous or not. The only reason I came down hard on you is because you sounded like you were starting to get defensive. When people get defensive, they are not listening. But then again, you never asked for advice in the first place did you. Like I said, you have a very slim chance of being pregnant. If you were a 15 year old girl who was pregnant and asking advice, I think our replies would have been different. It's just that we want you to stop it before it happens. If you are pregnant you will be ok. Just remember that there are people out there who can help you. And you can finish school and make a life for yourself. It might take a while longer, or a lot of estra help, but you can do it. And remember to take very good care of yourself.
Once again, I'm really sorry if my last reply was too harsh. It's just that to most of us "older" women, 15 is so young, and we don't want to see a young lady give up her dreams and goals because of a baby that could have been prevented. You said you would achieve your goals no matter what, and that's a good attitude. But the truth is, a baby changes your life forever, no matter what your age. Not all in bad ways though.
I know you asked that I not reply to your posts, but I had to let you know that I really am not trying to make things worse. I really am a nice person. I think you have a strong will, and you will do fine whether you are or are not pregnant. Of course if you are it won't be easy, and you know that, but you will be able to handle it. You will have to.
hey im really sorry 2! i didnt mean all that and i apologize im just scared...i feel bad i went off like that....if u will and know the answer please answer this ?...does ur stomach swell or get just a tiny bit bigger like maybe stick out when your preg.? i know if i am pregnant its only been 2 weeks, but my friend says my stomach looks like its sticking out a lil more than usual and ive noticed it too...ive had stomach pain to in my lower abdomen...so did ur stomach swell or look a lil bit plumper than normal? im so sorry i cussed at u i had no right 2! i appreciate ur help and ur last reply...of course i listen to your replies, and i dont wanna hear a specific thing...i just think some of the things u wrote could've been left out cause they just added more stress...including everyone else who wrote something negative...please write back and i forgive u please forgive me! ~Kat
I promise you would not being having symptoms 2 days after having sex!!
do you know the basics of baby making? i mean that say you were ovulating, when a man ejaculates in you the sperm can survive in there for 2-3 days and it may take that long for them to fertilize the egg.
so in all reality if you were pg the egg may just now be fertilized and not even implanting yet.
so I wouldn't worry about it, wait till next month and worry if you get no period!