REALISTICALLY - your going home outfit for you and baby. Slippers, toothbrush, hairbrush, socks, make-up if you want and I personally like my own pj's for after and not hospital gowns. Leave home the "soothing" cd's, BRING a tennis ball for massaging, but mostly you never use the "soothing" stuff or if you do it doesn't help much anyway.
BRING common sense, patience, a high pain thresh hold and self-control. Once you lose control of the breathing with contractions they get WAY harder to bear and seemingly harder in general.
This I have learned after 3 kids!
I saw woman outside my hospital window having their hubbies carry SUITCASES and huge duffle bags of stuff into labor. POINTLESS!! Youo nly add to the crud you have to bring home. Remeber the hospital gives you diapers bags, diapers, gauze and vasaline (cercumscion babies) wipes binkis and formula for those not breastfeeding. PLUS you will likely have flowers, balloons and whatever else. Make it easy pack a nice size backpack and save yourself the trouble when leaving the hospital.
Also leave the bag in the car until you get to your room, except for massage stuff, socks, scrunchies and brush (in case someone is nice enough to brush your hair which they should). Robe for strolling halls if need be, but you can subsitute another hospital gown over the one your alrady in. Thinner and cooler. Bring the cameras too, but leave the rest.
This is my advice...hope it helps.
Mommy of Julia, Grace and our brand new son Benjamin!