how do you recover from rape? - Rape / Sexual Abuse Message Board

toomanyquestons · 12-26-2006, 03:17 AM

hey i hope someone here can give me some insight or point me to somewhere. on christmas eve i was on a date with a guy i met clubbing, problem is we never got out of the car we pulled up in the car park and he proceeded to make me give him head, i didnt fight much because i was just so scared but i was crying and saying i dont want to do this i cant do this but he wouldnt let me stop he told me he was going to do more but he stopped finally. im not going to report it just coz its so hard to talk about but i need to know how to move on form this i feel so numb atm but i cant eat coz i just feel so sick i just want someone to talk to that can understand what im going through

Sannah · 12-26-2006, 09:18 AM

Toomanyquestions, I am so sorry that this happened to you. Is there a rape crisis center that you can contact?

Therag · 12-26-2006, 01:36 PM

Hi I'm really sorry to hear of your appaling ordeal. I know it's probably easier said than done but you need to go to the police, because this creep should be banged up and the key thrown away!

Lanugo · 12-26-2006, 05:33 PM

I agree that creeps like that should be locked up but right now is the time to do what's best for you - not to try to be a saviour to all of womankind. You need to find a number of a rape crisis line. These people know what they're dealing with because unfortunately they see it all too often. I do hope you know there's nothing wrong with how you handled yourself - fear is such an immobilising thing. You weren't to know who this person really was - we've all been on dates with someone we've just met. It is possible to come to terms with these things and at least you're still around to tell the tale.

Take care of yourself and try your best to eat something, you're probably a lot stronger than you know - I think I would've cracked up by now.

Lots of love and all the best wishes.

SJ x

Lanugo · 12-26-2006, 05:36 PM

1800-424-017 is your local counselling line. It's the 1st thing that comes up on Google if you type in "rape crisis sydney". Go there for their full information.