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Old 06-22-2002, 05:47 PM   #1
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Sexual abuse

I am almost 17 now . I was abused sexually from the time i was 4 till i was about 13. Could it cause probems i am unaware of. Not very many peolpe know. So i don't really want to ask anyone.

 
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Old 06-23-2002, 03:48 AM   #2
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Re: Sexual abuse

yes it very likely will...... in later life! ive heard and known alot of people to have sexual problems and relationship problems in there later life! even if it doesnt affect u much now it will as u mature!! they dealt with it by goin to see a counseller or psychologist! do it early before the problems start!!!

good luck and who every did it to ya should ROT IN HELL

 
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Old 06-25-2002, 02:40 PM   #3
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I agree with the previous poster. You should also visit a gyno. My friend was forced when she was nine. She has some problems with her female body parts (I know that sounds vain, but I can't remember which ones). She thinks it could be associated with the malesting.

 
Old 06-29-2002, 03:55 PM   #4
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If that person is still alive, you should press charges, if not for yourself then for others like will likley be abused by him!

 
Old 06-30-2002, 09:49 PM   #5
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I can very well cause problems dear.
For example, I was raped at age 13, and now because of it no matter how comfortable I am around my partner, I still can't relax myself enough to orgasm around him.
Even though I trust this man with my life, etc. I can't bring myself to do it.
Now keep in mind it can cause various non-sexual related problems as well.
Please seek help with someone. I know how hard it is to go through this alone.
You don't have to go through it alone though.
Good luck honey.


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Old 07-01-2002, 04:55 PM   #6
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Sorry i haven't responded back yet but i went to youyh camp. He is still alive and i tried to press charges but the court dismissed the case. I think he is doing the same thing he did to me to his girlfriend's childern.

 
Old 07-02-2002, 05:56 AM   #7
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Wow! You were a brave girl and it's horrible to think he could still be hurting kids. Please do see someone professional about it as it can affect you and your future partners both sexually and in day to day life. I had a partner in the past who kept filling her life up with constant activity so that she didn't have to confront her memories. It drove her to a major stress breakdown and I experienced stress problems too. Get help now so you can deal with it all in a more rational, controlled manner. You have to be comfortable with your therapist though. The right one should be like a big soft pillow that you can fall onto. Good luck.

 
Old 07-02-2002, 10:08 AM   #8
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Speaking from experience,, this can lead to:
-anger
-insecurities
-low self esteem
-no trust in partners
-fear of abandonment
-lack of sexual desire, or increase
-fear of commitment, or increased need for
-obstructive behavior
-no emotional feelings, or increase in
-the constant fear of wondering, what if this is happening to my kids, and the biggest fear of not knowing
-feelings of no self worth
-feeling of being undesirable, or more so feeling very vulnerable
my list can go on,,, please whatever you do, press the issue of your abuse with the courts, counselors, private group therapies,,,, im 31, its still a big secret. 'he' knows i know, thats what counts!
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Old 07-02-2002, 04:18 PM   #9
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OMG I get so mad when I hear these things. What did the courts try to charge him with? He wasn't found innocent so you csn still get him. Or try another charge of somekind. Think of all the people this man is probly Abusing currently or before you. Try to charge him with something that will get him put on a sexual offenders list so he has to register before moving and everything. They say 1 in every 4 women is raped or abused. THIS IS WHAT IS REPORTED!!!! Most go unreported! Some friends and I got on this debate awhile ago there was 7 of us. 6 had been abused. Guess how many reported it, 1 !!!!! We will never beable to get rid of these sick u know whats unless the LAWS CHANGE !!!!!!!!! DID YOU KNOW I COULD SMOKE A JOINT AND GO TO JAIL LONGER THEN IF I RAPED 2 KIDS LESS FINE TOO. ITS SICK, SICK, SICK, SICK!
IF ANYONE HAS A SUGGESTION ON HOW TO CHANGE THESE LAWS BESIDES ME GOING TO LAW SCHOOL PLESE SPEAK UP. yes this will effect your whole life,but its up to you if it changes for the better or worse. Don't dwell thats the first rule. Realise he cann't hurt you anymore. You are big girl/boy now and have control over these things now, you didn't before. How you look at things will determine how your life will go. Good luck to you and I hope you have a happy life.
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Old 07-02-2002, 04:58 PM   #10
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Hey Littlemedic..I've been through what you've gone through.I'm 15 and when I was about 6, my supposed *loving* dad sort of raped me. It's hard to describe but I dont think you all want to hear the story of how ithappened. Anyway, I've been afraid for the same things too.. I guess that may be the reason of my self-consciousness. I trust my boyfriend with my life practically, yet, i'm still having trouble with sex. and hes not pressuring me so I'm happy with him. Anyway, my dad is now dead, and has been since i was about 8 and i have anothrdad now. I finally got the guts to tell them at the end of last year around december or so and my mom didnt beleive... she said my dad loved me too much to ever want to hurt me. But said to her "thats it, he told me he loved me and never wanted to hurt me" but he really helped in destroying my life. Anyway, i thought i would share that to let you know you werent alone and I wouldnt give up on the charges. If my dadwere alive today, i would keep trying until the last second of my life came. Good luck

 
Old 07-02-2002, 11:09 PM   #11
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<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by BeautifulMess:
<B>Speaking from experience,, this can lead to:
-ANGER
-INSECURITIES
-LOW SELF ESTEEM
-NO TRUST IN PARTNERS
-FEAR OF ABANDONMENT
-LACK OF SEXUAL DESIRE, OR INCREASE
-FEAR OF COMMITMENT, OR INCREASED NEED FOR
-OBSTRUCTIVE BEHAVIOR
-NO EMOTIONAL FEELINGS, OR INCREASE IN
-THE CONSTANT FEAR OF WONDERING, WHAT IF THIS IS HAPPENING TO MY KIDS, AND THE BIGGEST FEAR OF NOT KNOWING
-FEELINGS OF NO SELF WORTH
-FEELING OF BEING UNDESIRABLE, OR MORE SO FEELING VERY VULNERABLE
</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE>
And just to highlight these things, I still feel all of them severely, many years later.
Infact many of those things (though not all) did not show up at all until much later on.
Argh, I'm sorry I want to help more but this is a touchy subject for me still. <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/frown.gif">



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