He raped me! - Rape / Sexual Abuse Message Board

xKaShyLahx · 10-06-2002, 01:39 AM

hi guys!!
im feelin really sad infact hurt, here's what happened..me and my friend were out chilin she got this phone call from her b/f saying he wants to meet her etc..so we went to his flat (condo). When we got there afew of his friends were there and one of them was his brother. His friend (the brother) kept telling me he wanted me and really liked but i wasnt interested...

After we chilled, eat something the guys (my friends b/f and his brother) treat us to watch a basketball match, his brother paid for me. Anyway when that was finshed, my friend wanted to go back to her b/f flat and chill, and the other guy litterally begged me to come to. I knew it was getting late but i thought what the hell and went with them. anyway were walking on the street his putting his arm around me, telling me he wants to be my man etc...but i told him im not interesting plus i like someone else (stupid move)..

When we arrived at the flat (condo)i decided to phone my friend (the other guy that i liked)i think he must of been upset, but i didnt really care...then he said he wanted to talk to me in the other room so i went...he lied we didnt talk...he turn the light OFF! and started kissing me, touching me..then me told me to take my hoodie off, so he could get more comfortable so i did...we carried on kissing then he wanted me to lower my panties and pants. By then i didnt want to do anything else b/c i didnt like him. He was lying on top of me and forcing on me...he keep fingering me i told him to stop ..but he just keep telling me to shut up. I could sort of feel him getting his penis out. I begged him to stop and stop b/c he was hurting me and i didnt want to...but he didnt...and kept telling me to stop and keep holding me down...now i was crying begging, and begging him to stop and i didnt want to b/c im still a virgin. The next thing i know i could feel this really nasty pain it made me moan alittle i knew it wasnt his finger....it felt to big to be his finger...and thats when i knew i was no longer a virgin...i cant remember how but i managed to push him off me....after that i put my clothes on and went..he tried to chase me down the road but i just keep running and so did my friend....i dont know i posted this, i think i just need some comfort and support....

i havent told anybody expect u guys and a friend which i know is stupid cos ...man, i feel like a ****, easy...i keep crying b/c he really hurt me, wouldnt listen to me and took my virginity...it hurts really bad everytime i walk....he told me he really cared about me and would he never hurt me...i wanted to save myself for someone special..

...i'll never trust another guy again..

oh i have afew questions
1, the little crack by my virgina keeps bleeding why is that? will it stop bleeding?

2, is there a chance that im pregnant, he didnt use a condom, and obviously i dont take the pill b/c im not sexually active? im going to the clinic on monday or is that to late? ...this happened saturday night (saturday evening in american time) by the way

thanks for reading i hope someone replies

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[This message has been edited by xKaShyLahx (edited 10-06-2002).]

dustbunnys_baby · 10-06-2002, 01:56 AM

Wow sweetie,
I am so sorry this has happened to you. Don't think for one second that this is your fault or that all guys are like this. I have had this happen to me quite a few times. I had a really screwed up childhood. I know you pain. First of all you are still a virgin. Noone can steal that from you. Sexually you are not but mentally you are. Second the bleeding should stop in a few days. When you go to the clinic talk to the doctor and see what he says. Third there is always a chance of pregnany when unprotected sex is involved. Just go in on monday and find out what is going on with your vagina. Your doctor will tell you everything you need to know. Please for you sake stay out of those situations. Don't be alone with a guy who seems a little to attached or interested in you. be safe. Carry mase or something to protect yourself. No weapons. Just something to spray or scare him with. I hope this helps honey. Get to a counselor they will help you sort this out. Much love

nicola76 · 10-06-2002, 03:57 AM

First off, none of this was your fault. Please don't be so hard on yourself.

I also don't think you should wait until Monday to go to this clinic. I suggest that you get straight to the hospital to be checked out. They'll check for any STD' and pregnancy as well as set up some counselling for you. Counselling will be a very important part of your recovery.

If you can bring yourself to do it, I strongly suggest getting to the police and reporting this guy. I realize reporting him may seem scary but what he did to you is wrong, illegal and he needs to be turned in. He has no right to walk around free to hurt other girls.

As far as your virginity goes, I feel that you can still consider yourself a virgin. In my personal opinion giving yourself consenually to somebody you love and care about is losing one's virginity.

Please take care sweetie and keep in touch. We're all here for you.

Nic

Geoff B · 10-06-2002, 07:22 AM

As a male I just want to add my sympathy and say also that this was not your fault. This guy raped you when you said no and there is no excuse for that. Not all men are *******s but there are a hell of a lot of *******s out there. I'm so sorry you have been hurt by this guy. Get youself checked out at a clinic as soon as you can. You do need some counselling too. You are certainly not a **** or easy as you said you feel. You said no and he ignored you. He's the one to blame not you. You did nothing wrong at all.

Michael _aka_Sparky · 10-06-2002, 08:27 AM

I know you have now read this 3 times, go to the Dr as soon as possible. If necessary, go to a Hospital ER. They have the means to preserve any & all evidence of this guy raping you. Yes, get the Police involved.
Guys have to learn that NO MEANS NO, PERIOD!!!!
I'm a male in my 40's. I was raped by a Husband/Wife couple when I was 13. I was too scared by their threats to report every thing they did to me. I only told the Police that they wanted me to have sex with them. They got off with a "WARNING", that's it.

Don't let him get away with harming you.

I do hope & pray everything goes well for you.

Sparky