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Old 08-07-2013, 06:10 PM   #1
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Was I molested when I was 14?

Hey people,

When I was 14 years old I met a 23/24 year old man online who happened to live in the same neighbourhood as I did. This was about 10 or 11 years ago as I am now 24 years old myself. This was on MSN profiles if ya'll remember that... Anyways...

I was curious about my sexuality at the time and he mentioned that he was bisexual/curious looking for other likeminded people. We started chatting online and I lied to him about my age and said I was 16. We met up in person a few times and hung out, yet I continued to lie to him about my age. Eventually, I told him that I was 14... and at first he was angry at me but continued hanging out with me. Later down the line we ended up chilling together and we started fooling around... We both took out our penis and starting playing with one another... I remember feeling really nervous at the time and hesitant but nevertheless we continued to touch... I didn't bust or anything though and neither did he.

Even though I consented to doing this... Is this considered molestation?

I still think about this from time to time and am curious.

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Old 08-07-2013, 11:08 PM   #2
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Re: Was I molested when I was 14?

It is considered molestation as you were underage, and considered legally incapable of consenting to sexual activity. How do you feel about it now? Did it disturb you at the time? These things are more relevant to you than a general definition of molestation. Perhaps a bit of counselling to find out exactly how you are with this may be useful. Sera

 
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Re: Was I molested when I was 14?

I would agree with above post.

 
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Old 08-08-2013, 02:55 PM   #4
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Re: Was I molested when I was 14?

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It is considered molestation as you were underage, and considered legally incapable of consenting to sexual activity. How do you feel about it now? Did it disturb you at the time? These things are more relevant to you than a general definition of molestation. Perhaps a bit of counselling to find out exactly how you are with this may be useful. Sera
I definitely feel like it affected me. For years I was confused about whether I was gay, bi, curious, straight whatever you want to call it. I consider myself a straight male now but still have a slight attraction towards men but I'm not interested in dating or seeing them.

I have booked an appointment with my GP and am hoping she'll refer me to a Therapist to do some CBT. Talking about things always makes me feel better. I have seen a therapist/psychiatrist in the past however I never spoke up about this. I am totally against what H as we'll call him did to me. I felt unsure and uncomfortable at the time.

I struggle with slight ADHD and NVLD so as an adolescent/child I was rash and unpredictable in behaviour. I wasn't aware of the concept of consequence back then and would continue to make the same mistakes, over and over.

 
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