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Old 07-14-2009, 10:12 PM   #1
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Just Curious... and maybe a little depressed...OK the psychiatrist says a lot

I'm just curious. I'm single, everyone on here seems to be married and/or in an established relationship. I was wondering how many people are on this board are single and how they deal with it?

I've lost half my so called "friends" because of this crappy disease as I've come to call it. (It actually helps to call it that if you can believe it, I even told my physical therapist the other day I won the crap lottery the day I got RSD when he said I was a special case since the way I got it is so weird.)

I can't even imagine anyone wanting to date someone with this disease (namely me) if they weren't already together before the diagnosis. Do any of you single people out there, if there are any date?

I hate the thought of being alone forever and was just curious how the other single peoples out there felt and how they deal with dating.

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Old 07-15-2009, 02:53 PM   #2
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Re: Just Curious... and maybe a little depressed...OK the psychiatrist says a lot

I am sorry to hear that you are down. I am married so do not fit the criteria you asked about, but wanted to say something. I find it hard being married because I am no longer the same person. I feel like I am a total downer and if my husband can't deal with my close to full body then I do not know if I will date or not. We are not RSD. We are awesome people who got crappy luck like you said. It is so easy to get down about this nad go into dark places. I am trying not to because it's hard to come out. I try to take life just one day at a time and enjoy the little things in life I still have. I am super worried my husband can't deal. We are just 27 and the future is pretty depressing and maybe no children. But, I am not going there because it is too much for me. I hope this helps? I just don't want you to think that everything is roses just because we aren't single.

 
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Old 07-15-2009, 08:41 PM   #3
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Re: Just Curious... and maybe a little depressed...OK the psychiatrist says a lot

Sometimes I wonder if being single would be eaiser, for my honey. We went from having a life with a young child where we had play dates, school things, our date night. Now Jackson goes to work comes home helps me make dinner because of going to the Pain Clinic 3 days a week for PT, Seeing the Dr and then now the wacko doco lol. Not to even start the once very healthy lovings, and now poor thing I sit in my lazy boy, jackson sits on the couch we both have out compts and there isn't much alone time for us. Don't be down being single hun, because when you do meet that one, they will already know what RSD is and what they have to be willing to go through with you and the right one will step up right away and never say we can't do this together. a little depressed is understandable, just make sure you don't get to down, never let Rsd win. Remember you have RSD it doesn't have you.

 
Old 07-16-2009, 10:04 PM   #4
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Re: Just Curious... and maybe a little depressed...OK the psychiatrist says a lot

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I just don't want you to think that everything is roses just because we aren't single.
It's not that I think everything is roses because you aren't single. I know how hard it is to make a relationship work without this crappy disease. I've lost half of my friends over it because they just can't deal.

I got to thinking about dating for some reason and was wondering if I can't even keep friends, how am I ever supposed to even try to make a relationship work. I'd noticed that everyone on the boards seems to be in some sort of relationship and wondered if I was the only single one on the boards. I was kinda hoping for dating advice but it looks like I am the only single person here. There goes my dastardly plan for an RSD dating service

 
Old 06-04-2011, 11:30 AM   #5
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Re: Just Curious... and maybe a little depressed...OK the psychiatrist says a lot

I'm married also however after suffering from this condition, I may as well be single. Because of how my life has changed and the pain I go through on a daily basis, I usually isolate myself from my loving wife. I do this for many reasons including that I don't want to cause her any additional stress by knowing just how bad I feel. There are many opinions why RSD sufferers do this however I honestly believe that I do it to protect her from the awful truth. I also believe that for me, it's very difficult to put on a smile and think positive when I feel like I'm on fire. I'm so mad at this condition and how it's affected not only my life but my wife's too. I'm very grateful that I have her in my life and couldn't imagine trying to deal with this alone. Although since having this condition, I spend most of my time alone, I do spend time with her. I try and always remember that even though I'm always in physical pain, this condition not only affects me but it also affects her and as a result, she's in emotional pain. I always try and remember this.

I don't know if the person who started this thread is still a active member or not, however if you or anyone else on this board are single, you are not alone as long as you participate with the other board members. Even though I just joined, I have read through many threads and posts and feel like I'm at home. It's a great feeling....

 
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