Hi Rayfaye and welcome to the boards!
That's an awful long time to go from having an accident, and then having the syptoms of RSD show up 3 years later!

Are you sure there wasn't something else along the way that helped esceleate these syptoms?? I'm not doubting you, But the burning pain is always a side effect of this monster. My family never believed me at first either until they stayed with me for 2 weeks. After thee first week, they became very worried because I could't get up and move and be normal like when I first arrived

Losing hair is another symptom. So did you remarry??
I can relate to you drawing your arm up into your shoulder blade area in a fixed position. Mine does that all the time. I recently hurt my injured RSD arm, and the left wrist is about the size of a golf ball, and no amount of bengay seems to help

I am on 180 mg of morphine a day, with soma, xanax, and percocets for breakthru pain. Whatever you do don not put your arm in a sling!! Try to move the affected limb as tolerable.. Have you tried massage? One lady here has great relief with water. When you are in a warm pool all the pressure is taken off of the limb. I can't believe they thought you were bipolar, but anything for a DX right. I hope you are getting ssdi or some assitance. We are all here for you. Sorry I can't be of more assisstance, but I just wanted to welcome you to the boards. Aloha Skooze