Here is the short version. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 1/2 years. I do love him but he just isnt responsible. I mean, he never really worked and I always paid for everything for two years. He is working now but it just isnt enough.
There have been times when he takes $20 from my hidden stash of money. He never tells me about it until I find out and ask him. then he says, "I thought I told you, its just $20." In the past he has used my credit card and bank card to take out some money (usually $20) from time to time. I know it is $20 but that doesnt matter. I feel like I cant trust him anymore. I shouldnt have to hide my money or write down how much is there so I know when a twenty is taken. He says we live together and should share. I just feel so used though. He says I care about money too much and I am greedy. Its not that I am greedy but I think things should be fair in a relationship. If I make more I should pay more for bills, but he isn't doing his part.
I just got a new car and I have a lot of bills. If he leaves, it will be hard for me to pay for everytihng myself. He says that he should continue to live with me just to help out because his few hundred dollars a month is better than nothing.
He has won money in the past gambling (we live in Las Vegas) and I suggsted opening a checking account or putting some in savings for when we have bad weeks at work (we both make tips) but he won't. He is 28 and I feel like I will never get him to be responsible with money. I feel like I am a mom to him, I use to actually give him an allowance and now that he works, I have to make sure he pays his bills (all in my name) on time. Gosh this story sounds patyhetic!
I have tried ultimatums to kick him out, that doesnt work. I dont want to call the police and get an eviction. I wish we could solve this money problem.
What should I do? I know there are a lot of issues here...