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Old 03-16-2004, 12:04 PM   #1
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Question How to Proceed?

I went skiing for the first time ever a few weeks ago and had a lesson. My ski instructor was a cute, young guy (too young for me, but cute!). Shortly after my lesson was done, another ski instructor came over and started giving me pointers and helping me out. I thought, "Great! Free lessons!" Didn't think anything of it, since this guy was probably about 70 years old (at least!) But he followed me around most of the day, but I was okay with it since I really needed the help. ANd he was polite and all, but I kind of got the feeling maybe he was "interested" , but I would quickly shrug it off and think, "he's 70 years old! Maybe I just remind him of his grand-daughter." Then he let me "borrow" his ski goggles and when I went to give them back, he insisted I keep them. ANyway, he sent me an email (when I registered for lessons, I gave them my email address). He wrote just to say that I did well skiing, etc. So I responded...but now we have an email "correpondence" going and I don't feel comfortable. He has not done or said anything inappropriate, but I'm just getting worried about him asking if we could "get together some time". I'm not a very direct person and I don't like confrontation. At the same time, he seems like a nice guy..but..perhaps I am just being naive to think he just wants to be pen-pals? He has now asked me for my personal email addres (the one he is using is for my work). How do I respond to this? I know I don't owe him anything, but I don't want to be rude either. Besides, I don't know what his intentions are and I don't want to be presumptuous that he is "interested".

 
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Re: How to Proceed?

hey there...

One: don't give him your personal home email address, just tell him your never on your home computer since you are always on it at work.....

Two: further or delay your response to his emails sent at your work and tell him you have been busy...make up a weekend of fun with your boyfriend if you have one or make one up or that you went on a date...

Three: Tell him how much he reminds you of Your Grandfather in an email conversation...

Good Luck...

 
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Re: How to Proceed?

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hey there...

One: don't give him your personal home email address, just tell him your never on your home computer since you are always on it at work.....

Two: further or delay your response to his emails sent at your work and tell him you have been busy...make up a weekend of fun with your boyfriend if you have one or make one up or that you went on a date...

Three: Tell him how much he reminds you of Your Grandfather in an email conversation...

Good Luck...
Yep! depersonalize, depersonalize, depersonalize.....rinse, repeat.

 
Old 03-18-2004, 12:39 PM   #4
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Re: How to Proceed?

I agree with the above suggestions, having been in your place. Wait for longer and longer periods when responding to his emails. Keep your responses brief - along the lines of "gotta run, boyfriend is picking me up in a couple of minutes". Do not give out your personal email address.

 
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Re: How to Proceed?

I hope this makes sense.

A woman of 70 looks into the mirror and sighs because she remembers how she used to look at 40.

A man looks into the mirror and smiles. As far as he is concerned, he still looks 40.

Keep the old man at a distance. He probably DOES mistake your politeness for a come on.

 
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