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Old 04-21-2004, 10:18 PM   #1
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Question Meeting parents

Okay, I 'm 20 yrs old, I've been dating a guy who is 23 yrs old for about 4 mths now. We've went traveling together we see each other about 3 to 4 times a week. But there is a problem he want invite me into his house and introduce me to his dad properly, if i go get him i just call on the cell phone and tell him I'm there he never invites me in. See I introduce myself to his dad about 2 mths ago at the hospital because my boyfriend had a wreck(he is ok) but that is the only time. He says its because his house is messy because of his dad and his 6 yr old sis. His parents are divorced and I just met his mother about 3 days ago. Just wondering if it might be another reason that you guys might know of.

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Old 04-22-2004, 04:24 AM   #2
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The house could infact be messy and he is embrassed. Then he should clean it.

I wouldn't make a big deal out of it. IF you really feel the need to investigate for yourself if the house is dirty..Cook you boyfriend and his dad a meal..A baked paste dinner and surprise him with it. Bring it over the house and maybe your boyfriend will let you in.

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Old 04-22-2004, 07:32 AM   #3
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Re: Meeting parents

As Chris Rock said " If you don't know his Parents or Friends then you ain't his boyfriend"


I am just kidding


Anyways, Yuh his house may be messy and ashamed of it. If you allready met his dad once then I really don't fell that he may be hiding anything. The more he is around you the more he will know about you and that meaning is he is starting to feel more comfortable with you and feels your going to stick around rather than try to impress.

 
Old 04-22-2004, 07:43 AM   #4
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He is 23?? Most people don't take someone home to "meet the parents" unless they feel like it is going somewhere. Why deal with the hassel if it's just a fling. Stop second guessing and be glad that he is introducing you "properly" to his family now. It means he sees some sort of future with you.

 
Old 04-22-2004, 08:16 AM   #5
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Stop second guessing and be glad that he is introducing you "properly" to his family now. It means he sees some sort of future with you.
Newlywedgurl, I think there was a typo in her first message. What I think she meant to say was:

But there is a problem he won't invite me into his house and introduce me to his dad properly

At least this is what it seems based on the context of her messages.

 
Old 04-22-2004, 08:22 AM   #6
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Newlywedgurl, I think there was a typo in her first message. What I think she meant to say was:

But there is a problem he won't invite me into his house and introduce me to his dad properly

At least this is what it seems based on the context of her messages.
Yes, that was my impression too. Well, 4 months is not that long, in all honesty. He might not be sure if he wants to be with you long-term yet. But you mentioned that you've met his mom. That's a start. Hopefully you'll soon meet his dad properly as well.

 
Old 04-22-2004, 08:24 AM   #7
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Re: Meeting parents

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Originally Posted by Salinas1
Newlywedgurl, I think there was a typo in her first message. What I think she meant to say was:

But there is a problem he won't invite me into his house and introduce me to his dad properly

At least this is what it seems based on the context of her messages.
OK...that makes more sense. Well how are we supposed to know why?? lol
Could be any number of things. Maybe he doesn't see the relationship as that serious. Maybe his family is like the Klumps and they embarrass him. Maybe the house really is messy. Hell, I have no idea!

 
Old 04-22-2004, 08:28 AM   #8
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You've been dating him 4 months which is not very long at 23. I dated a man for 4 years and he was very weary about intoducing me to his family the first year. Reason was, he was ashamed. I came from a pretty stable family background. His parents were divorced, alcoholics, and the list goes on. I think he was afraid that at the beginning I would have judged him by his parents. Once he felt secure with me and our relationship deepened he felt more comfortable with me meeting his parents. This maybe the problem in your case. We are not all proud or even respect choices our parents made. I wouldn't sweat it. I would be more concerned if he wan't introducing you to his friends. Those he can pick, we can't pick our families.

 
Old 04-22-2004, 08:31 AM   #9
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On a side note, I did CPS investigations for several years. You would not believe the condition that some people's homes are in. Well-dressed, respectable people even....doctors, teachers.....you wouldn't believe how gross their houses are! Maybe it really is that messy.....

 
Old 04-23-2004, 12:10 PM   #10
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Thanks for you're opinions and help, I think everything will be okay. I'm not to worried about it now. If he waits a year then i will start asking questions.

 
Old 04-25-2004, 09:44 AM   #11
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Re: Meeting parents

But, she has already met both his dad and his mom. If it is just him, his dad and a 6 year old, most likely the house is a mess.
It's not a big deal unless you want to help him clean it.

 
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