Am I jealous his best friend is a girl? - Relationship Health Message Board

neener5151 · 05-14-2004, 12:37 PM

My boyfriend and I have an awesome relationship. We are very close to each other. He had some family problems and ended up living in a group home. About four months after he moved in, a girl named Ashley moved in. They hit it off great and became best friend. He loves me very much and she also has a boyfriend. I know there are no feelings there but sometimes the look he gives her bothers me. They argue to end sometimes and he'll tell me they aren't friends anymore... the next time I go to his house, they are buddy buddy. It just bothers me. Am I not seeing something here? Since their just friends, how can I come to accept this and stop being jealous?

excaliburgrl · 05-14-2004, 12:46 PM

i think you just need to realize that they share a common bond...they were both in this home...i can sympathize though...my best friend is a guy and my hubby used to get terribly jealous...but he finally grew to accept it and got used to it...

eightball61 · 05-14-2004, 01:02 PM

Its is ok to have bestfriends in life. I know its hard when your mate is friends with the opposite sex but this all has to be based on trust. As a question: Do they have a past of being together?

If they don't really have a history then try not to worry. It is hard but trust is a very important feature to any realtionship. If you have worries talk to him and see what he can do to assure you nothing is happening when they are together.

neener5151 · 05-14-2004, 01:04 PM

No, there is no past relationship at all.

excaliburgrl · 05-14-2004, 01:06 PM

okay then it sounds like you just need to learn to trust him...it's very common for people to be best friends with the opposite sex...just please, please don't force him to choose between the two of you...just try to relax...