Help! I need some advice - Relationship Health Message Board

elizab83 · 05-14-2004, 01:42 PM

My fiancee and I have been together for 2 years now. We have basically lived together ever since we have been together. The day before valentine's day, i found some video's with girls on them. I did not approve of this, he did not tell me about his renting of these videos. When I found them, he did not know why he did it, besides he was stupid, atleast that is what he says. Now he is obcessed with porn. I don't know what to do. It just makes me sick. If anyone has advice, please help me. I am desperate. I have talked to him about it, but it seems to do no good.

eightball61 · 05-14-2004, 02:06 PM

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Originally Posted by elizab83

My fiancee and I have been together for 2 years now. We have basically lived together ever since we have been together. The day before valentine's day, i found some video's with girls on them. I did not approve of this, he did not tell me about his renting of these videos. When I found them, he did not know why he did it, besides he was stupid, atleast that is what he says. Now he is obcessed with porn. I don't know what to do. It just makes me sick. If anyone has advice, please help me. I am desperate. I have talked to him about it, but it seems to do no good.

Different people have different thought to this but these adult films is somthing a lot of guys like. Some girls do like them but not all. He may have been hidding it for 2 reasons. 1. He knew you hated 2. He was embarassed to tell you.

I know a few guys that don't talk about it because of embaressment. Even though a lot do it there are some that don't. Know if he sisn't know that you didn't like know is the time to talk to him and tell him you get hurt with him looking at other women. Some women don't mind it like I said but it bothers you. Another thing is maybe you both could watch it together?

SophiaM · 05-14-2004, 02:11 PM

Please define "obsessed."

GirlHarley · 05-14-2004, 02:15 PM

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Originally Posted by SophiaM

Please define "obsessed."

LOL..., it's I love you so much but....I love my porno more, I get thrills out of watching it so then maybe I can try these new tricks on you, but wait...
I need to go back and watch it again and again.

eightball61 · 05-14-2004, 02:17 PM

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Originally Posted by SophiaM

Please define "obsessed."

Obsessed:having or showing excessive or compulsive concern with something; "became more and more haunted by the stupid riddle"; "was absolutely obsessed with the girl"; "got no help from his wife who was preoccupied with the children"; "he was taken up in worry for the old woman"