Originally Posted by Little 1
The issues I have are:
Alcoholism (past but sometimes recurring) which he knows about (kept forgetting) but makes a mockery of it.
Depression, which comes and goes.
History of self harm (not any more) but still persistent thoughts of suicide while depressed.
Abusive relationships which explains why I sometimes back away from intimacy, but he straight out told me that he does not want to know about it when i've been upset about it. he's even friends with one of the people lol.
I've discussed the possibilities of mental illnesses with him before (I sometimes hallucinate etc) which he seems alright with.
Probably won't like this, but, what young teenage boy would want to know these things. You are both very young. You have to ask yourself why would he want to burden himself with these very serious and personal issues. He is a teenager and wants to enjoy life, not likely get neck deep in the emotionally serious trials and travails of your past.
Your ages have much to do with his level of interest in your life challenges. It is tough enough to deal with these things with a growing relationship as an adult, I can easily understand why he isn't dealing well with it with you. You may not be objective or clearheaded enough to see or realize this, but neither of you can possibly approach these very serious issues as you would when you get a few more years behind you.
For now, I am afraid you either accept his aloofness over your serious past issues, or accept you will be frustrated and possibly angry in this relationship.