Originally Posted by devildoll
i have talked to him about counceling and he wont go. he says that this isnt something that anyone else can fix. about the 3rd shift he has been on it for a year now, but he still says that he has trouble sleeping. i just want the pain to subside, and the uncertianity is killing me.
thanks for your advise. and i also hope things work out for the best.
Well it does sound like he wants to be with you by still be close at times but him not going to counseling throws me off. I do understand that some people believe another person can't fix things but they actually can. Put it this was...Why would there be counselors if counseling doesn't work?
He seems on of those types that like to hide from a problem rather than facing the realities of life. Running won't help because you both are need for a talking. So what is his plan????? Hide until he feels better!!!!!
I hope he doesn't do this because this can be a huge problem in the future to come.
You both need to face it and talk about it. If he is willing to save this marriage then he should be willing for counseling. Counseling may not be for him, but in reality who really likes it and braggs about it??? No many, but we know a lot of people go. This is all private and knowone has to know because this is your personal life.
Give it some time(maybe a weak) and ask him what he wants to do. It seems like you do want to save this but in the sense you are almost about to give up. If you don't want to give up then don't until he says thats it. Talk to him....