I feel horrible - Relationship Health Message Board

dark_angel · 05-16-2004, 02:36 PM

okay this is the first time I've asked anything on this website. but yesterday i went over to my ex's house to hang out. we've been broken up for about a year&1/2 now but we stayed friends. well we got kinda drunk and ended up having sex. the thing is he has a girlfriend. i know it was a mistake, and i feel horrible about it. my question is should he tell his girlfriend about it. i know it wont ever happen agian. and i cant start a relationship with him. and i know he really cares about her dispite what happened. should he ruin his relationship with her over something that was nothing.
I would be thankful for any feed back.

promisez · 05-16-2004, 03:56 PM

You shouldn't even be concerned about it, what he does is HIS decision. Granted you both had a role in the events and you've just proven you can no longer even be friends without jeopardizing any of either of your relationships in the future. Alcohol doesn't just kill germs and bacteria, it also kills relationships and families. Next time you decide you are "kinda drunk", you may want to decide if you will ever be "kinda pregnant". Fact is, you either are or you're not, plain and simple yet you will still be held accountable for your actions. Break away before that "nothing" happens again.

eightball61 · 05-17-2004, 08:54 AM

This is totally his decision... Yes, you both were in the wrong. Now you did say that he really cares for her but how can you explain that with him cheating on her??? If he cares as much as you say he does then he should automatically tell her about it and if he doesn't then that just shows how much he does care. Anyway, I know you said that you don't want a relationship with him which is good because why would you want a guy like this??

SophiaM · 05-17-2004, 09:39 AM

Dark Angel, stop feeling horrible and beating yourself up. You didn't do anything wrong. Your ex is the one who chose to cheat on his current girlfriend. He is the one who should feel horrible and wonder if he should tell the gf or not. It's really not your problem. Just be happy you don't date him anymore because he's obviously not a faithful guy.

dark_angel · 05-17-2004, 09:44 AM

ive known this guy for almost 7 years i know how he is. i know he does care for this girl. and i cant stop being friends with him. hes benn one of my best friends during everythinf else ive been going through lately. i know im not pregnent. it is his fault but it feels like mostly mine.