Originally Posted by lme
my bf & I have been together for 1 year. we went out as a group in the beginning of our relationship. she (the friend) was very possesive of her friendship w/ my boyfriend and was clinging to him the entire evening. even though her boyfriend was there I felt like I had to share my boyfriend with her. as our relationship progressed he talked to her and explained how I felt. she said she would back off and was sorry she acted like that. But honestly I was so angry from that first experience that I haven't given her a second chance.
he says he doesn't want to even mention her name b/c I make a face. which must be difficult for him b/c this is his friend. so over the last year he has barely hung out with her. until recently, they just went out to dinner alone to celebrate their birthdays. he said it has been a tradition over the years. I said I thought it would have been nice to start a new tradition and have the 4 of us go. I felt she should have suggested that and it just gave me one more reason to hate her. he said b/c I get upset everytime her name is mentioned he thought that would be that last thing I wanted.
their friendship is not going to end and I would be a bad GF to say I want it to. We have a very strong relationship and do communicate well when problems come up. but the arguments have been frequent since their dinner (2 weeks ago) and it is the same thing over and over....he feels angry b/c he doesn't feel trusted. and it is a mute point for me to to say I trust you...but I just don't like her. !?
I am sensing that they is really nothing going on between these to. Yes they did have a relatonship and that was 10 years back but they did something that most can't do and thats retain bestfriend status after the break up.
The 2 are great friends and I don't think your BF will allow you to break that barrier so you will have to learn to accept it. Know he has done all the good deeds like talk to her and she apologized and willing to back off. She is doing everything in her will to not to interfear but they will continue to best friend things like celebrate birthdays.
Jealousy is hard to get over and only seeing this action for a year will give you mix feelings but the longer you are together and the more you see her you will adapt to it.