Re: Lonely in the Relationship
Well, I am in serious relationship and often feel lonely. Our sex life is better than average and we do laugh together a lot, but there is so much missing. He doesn't take many of the things that I'm passionate about very seriously. I am a musician and entertainer and he never cares to really listen to my stuff, hear about my time in the studio, what new material I may be working on, what gigs I have coming up, what meetings I have, etc. I receive many more compliments and encouragement from strangers than I do from him! That is sad, I know! He is very selfish and talks about his job and his bodybuilding constantly. He is always asking me to help him find a supplement for this, help him with his diet, massage his shoulder, etc. He never asks about my life unless it is directly related to how I feel about him. I know that he loves me (as much as he is capable of loving someone, as selfish as he is) and will be crushed if (actually when) I leave him, but I feel lonely and unfulfilled. Are you in love with your boyfriend? That is important because I don't think that I am in love with mine at all. The relationship is secure and comfortable and I like knowing that I have someone to go home to every night and constantly tell me that they love me, but it is still by no means enough. I am 24 and haven't gone longer than maybe 2 months without a serious boyfriend since I was 18. I'm just so used to having someone to have sex with and just simply have someone there whenever I want. I guess Miss Independent isn't so independent... Anyway, I find myself constantly tempted by other men that approach me and I crave more passion, etc. Anyway, good luck and I'm sorry that your self confidence is being affected by this. I hope that everything works out well for you! I'm sorry to have gone off about all of my problems, too! Think long and hard about this and really try to see the relationship for what it truly is.