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Old 06-03-2004, 08:51 AM   #1
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Do women settle?

I have read many posts about the differences between men and woman.It seems to have the same theme.A woman will go for the excitement:"bad guys",one niters,flings with friends and co-workers,i know it can be called "expirementing".
Then they settle down with a man whose reliable and commited,but many women use words to describe their new way of life as "boring but steady".
Isn"t that settling for someone to take care of you and be a provider for you?
what"s so bad about being commited and family oriented?I think it sells the family man short.

 
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Old 06-03-2004, 09:22 AM   #2
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Re: Do women settle?

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Isn"t that settling for someone to take care of you and be a provider for you?
Well this isn't back in 1940 when man took care of and provided for woman. This is 2004 where both people are working and providing for each other. This is a team work effort today.. You should see me old post" Man vs. Women & Women vs Man.( I will bump the post)


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what"s so bad about being commited and family oriented?I think it sells the family man short.
I am that type of guy that wants to be the perfect father and family guy. I go out of the way for my GF for anything she may want or need and I will do the same for my kids.

 
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Old 06-03-2004, 09:30 AM   #3
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Re: Do women settle?

Some women settle. Some men settle. Some men and women are clear headed, thoughtful, and purposeful when they make their final selection, and as such, feel much less like they are "settling".

It is not a women thing. How about all the guys that "settle" for a girl like dear old mother only to begin looking for that woman in red on the side. Settling comes from not living up to your own standards and both sexes do this with great frequency.

 
Old 06-03-2004, 09:33 AM   #4
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Some women settle. Some men settle. Some men and women are clear headed, thoughtful, and purposeful when they make their final selection, and as such, feel much less like they are "settling".

It is not a women thing. How about all the guys that "settle" for a girl like dear old mother only to begin looking for that woman in red on the side. Settling comes from not living up to your own standards and both sexes do this with great frequency.
Bravo Salinas! Perfect response.

 
Old 06-03-2004, 09:43 AM   #5
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Some women settle. Some men settle. Some men and women are clear headed, thoughtful, and purposeful when they make their final selection, and as such, feel much less like they are "settling".

It is not a women thing. How about all the guys that "settle" for a girl like dear old mother only to begin looking for that woman in red on the side. Settling comes from not living up to your own standards and both sexes do this with great frequency.

I like that

 
Old 06-04-2004, 04:52 AM   #6
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Salinas1 couldn't have said it any better!

so, stop picking on us woman - it's not just us who choose bad relationships MEN do too and they WHINE too and since I'm on the subject -
MEN, PMS too but just don't want to admit to it - It's called Denial!

 
Old 06-04-2004, 09:39 AM   #7
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I for one DIDNT settle, but everyone around me has suggested that I have. Needless to say, since getting married, I dont associate much with people who say that, its insulting to my husband! The "bad boy" I dated for years was tall and very good looking, but his personality was crap and he was going nowhere fast. Its funny though, everyone thought he was so hot and would acknowledge he was a loser but figured if he was so good looking, it was allright. My husband is slightly shorter than me, but I think hes cute! Im sick of people saying I settled for a man who is educated, successful, and has his head on straight. Im sick of people insinuating I could have done better, and that we are "mismatched". They must mean physically, because when I met him I was a single mom with half of a college degree and a less-than-perfect past. So now tell me, who settled???lol

 
Old 06-04-2004, 09:54 AM   #8
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I for one DIDNT settle, but everyone around me has suggested that I have. Needless to say, since getting married, I dont associate much with people who say that, its insulting to my husband! The "bad boy" I dated for years was tall and very good looking, but his personality was crap and he was going nowhere fast. Its funny though, everyone thought he was so hot and would acknowledge he was a loser but figured if he was so good looking, it was allright. My husband is slightly shorter than me, but I think hes cute! Im sick of people saying I settled for a man who is educated, successful, and has his head on straight. Im sick of people insinuating I could have done better, and that we are "mismatched". They must mean physically, because when I met him I was a single mom with half of a college degree and a less-than-perfect past. So now tell me, who settled???lol
You don't sound like you settled at all. Good for you Annebash, you can tell your friends who settled, when you are old with your husband talking about great books you have read, and your friends are with there Great looking guy, trying to teach them how to play "go fish" or "war". People start to look pretty similiar when they get old. Grow old with someone that you really like.

 
Old 06-04-2004, 10:04 AM   #9
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pppffffff....corey i liked that "goldfish" or "war" statement....way to make my friday...
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Old 06-04-2004, 10:10 AM   #10
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Thanks Excaliburgrl, and I was worried about that joke too. But it is true, I want to find someone that I find attractive, but that is secondary to being able to hold a good conversation, or better yet, an exhilarating argument, and the even better makeup time.

 
Old 06-04-2004, 10:13 AM   #11
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these women that settle for attractive guys with no wits don't realize that looks can fade with age...not saying that there arent attractive old people out there...but somehow i just can't picture a guy with sideburns and leather jacket sitting in a rocking chair...
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Old 06-04-2004, 10:30 AM   #12
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these women that settle for attractive guys with no wits don't realize that looks can fade with age...not saying that there arent attractive old people out there...but somehow i just can't picture a guy with sideburns and leather jacket sitting in a rocking chair...
Ha, ha....that's why most of those dudes have to die young before their image gets tarnished. It does get pathetic with age, just think about Elvis's last days.. poor fellow.

 
Old 06-04-2004, 10:33 AM   #13
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no wonder elvis died when he did...yah, maybe they decide that their looks are going so their life is too...
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Old 06-04-2004, 10:39 AM   #14
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Poor Anna-Nicole Smith, all looks an absolutely the most annoying personality. Now the looks are gone, at least she has money.

 
Old 06-04-2004, 10:54 AM   #15
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That money was HARD-EARNED, I tell you. Just imagine having to do "sleepytime" with a 90+ year-old geezer

 
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