When my girlfriends mentions anything about her past, it annoys me, I get jealous and angry, I know these are signs of immaturity but I just can't help it. I don't know how many people she has been with but my guess would be around 5 or 6 including me at the most, since she has 3 kids from 3 of these guys. I know it's stupid cause I have been with more girls than she has been with guys but I just get jealous and then annoyed at her and don't treat her right until I feel better. She is a good woman, wonderful person, the best woman I have ever been with. I was just wondering, since I am a wondering person, how many partners have you gals or guys had? I've been with 23 females as far as I can remember or want to remember lol!
When my girlfriends mentions anything about her past, it annoys me, I get jealous and angry, I know these are signs of immaturity but I just can't help it. I don't know how many people she has been with but my guess would be around 5 or 6 including me at the most, since she has 3 kids from 3 of these guys. I know it's stupid cause I have been with more girls than she has been with guys but I just get jealous and then annoyed at her and don't treat her right until I feel better. She is a good woman, wonderful person, the best woman I have ever been with. I was just wondering, since I am a wondering person, how many partners have you gals or guys had? I've been with 23 females as far as I can remember or want to remember lol!
I don't think there's any "standard" these days as to how much is enough and how much is too many ex lovers in one lifetime. I think you just need to ask yourself why you get so upset about her past. Are you afraid one of these guys will come back and take her away from you? Are you afraid she's thinking about these exes when she's with you? Has she given you any good reason to be jealous, or for you to think she's not faithful or loyal to you? You say she's a good woman. If so, then what difference does it make how many men she's been with before you? In my opinion, if she's broken contact will all her ex lovers, has been tested fully for STDs and is clean, then the past belongs there. It sounds to me like it's more an issue of your insecurity than her past promiscuity. You can't change her past, you can only change your reaction to it. Is she worth getting past it? If so, then start there. If not, leave her and find a nice virgin.
23 partners? You don't state your age, but sound as if you are young. I hope you use protection and are regularly HIV tested. As for your problem accepting her past- what difference does it make if she is committed to being with you? We all have a past- as you said you have had 23 different partners, compared to her 5 or 6.
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Originally Posted by junalo
When my girlfriends mentions anything about her past, it annoys me, I get jealous and angry, I know these are signs of immaturity but I just can't help it. I don't know how many people she has been with but my guess would be around 5 or 6 including me at the most, since she has 3 kids from 3 of these guys. I know it's stupid cause I have been with more girls than she has been with guys but I just get jealous and then annoyed at her and don't treat her right until I feel better. She is a good woman, wonderful person, the best woman I have ever been with. I was just wondering, since I am a wondering person, how many partners have you gals or guys had? I've been with 23 females as far as I can remember or want to remember lol!
This should be in the Sexual issues board and may get moved.
You have to control yourself. You are feeling this way because she is yours and you don't want to hear about YOUR lady being out with these guys in the past. You have been with 23 which is a large number. You should have nothing to complain about. Just don't make this girl another number to your books.
If you don't like her talking about her past guys then simply talk to her about it. I am the same way and we don't talk much about the past because we look present and future.
Learning her past is not a bad thing but I am sure you can know about other stuff beside these guys. Like where she went, what her friends were like, ect....
Jeff-
Do you have a twin and if so where can I look for him?
Very well said.
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This should be in the Sexual issues board and may get moved.
You have to control yourself. You are feeling this way because she is yours and you don't want to hear about YOUR lady being out with these guys in the past. You have been with 23 which is a large number. You should have nothing to complain about. Just don't make this girl another number to your books.
If you don't like her talking about her past guys then simply talk to her about it. I am the same way and we don't talk much about the past because we look present and future.
Learning her past is not a bad thing but I am sure you can know about other stuff beside these guys. Like where she went, what her friends were like, ect....
I am 28 and yeah I guess is just insecurity from my part. I am not a jealous person at all. She doesn't talk about her past and I am not insecure that someone from her past will come back for her, We are the best thing that has happen to each other as we both tell each other all the time, I am actually not the one questioning her and asking her about her past.
LOL, I know what you mean.
You sound like a very well grounded person. Actually- I think he lives with me- I finally found my keeper about a year ago. OR OMG- maybe you are him!!!
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They say everyone has a twin but I am still looking for mine.... You can help if you want but its taken me 22 yrs to do so
I am 28 and yeah I guess is just insecurity from my part. I am not a jealous person at all. She doesn't talk about her past and I am not insecure that someone from her past will come back for her, We are the best thing that has happen to each other as we both tell each other all the time, I am actually not the one questioning her and asking her about her past.
The question is: are you prepared to be a father to her three children. And the fact she had them with three different men is not sounding good to me either. How old is she? How can a responsible adult woman have unprotected sex with all these men and let them impregnate her? Am I missing something here? I sure hope that you are in control of the situation and you make sure to use protection, so that you don't become the father of her fourth child before you know FOR SURE that's what you want.
LOL, I know what you mean.
You sound like a very well grounded person. Actually- I think he lives with me- I finally found my keeper about a year ago. OR OMG- maybe you are him!!!
Well tell him I said hi
My mom was strict and I have her thinking so I thinks thats where I may get it. Scary huh...
I am 28 and yeah I guess is just insecurity from my part. I am not a jealous person at all.
To be being insecure is part of being jealous. You say you are not a jealous person but you get angry when she talks about these guys. I dont understand how you can be insecure on her relationship in the past. I see you being insecure if she is hanging with guys and going out with them.
I don't mean to give you a hard time but look at it from her angle also. What does she think of you being with majic number 23? I know I would be worrying about being another number.
You can help if you want but its taken me 22 yrs to do so 
