Please tell me it gets easier? - Relationship Health Message Board

commited · 08-27-2004, 10:07 AM

If you have read my posts before you will see that my boyfriend and I have broken up.We were together for a year and he was my first love.It has been a week.Well we arent 100% broken up we are both just thinking about what we want right now but I dont know if I want to talk to him in a few days (we have a set day that we will talk) Hes used to be such a cool guy,he was so nice and made me laugh and listenened and really truly cared about me but hes been such a jerk lately,hes blaming me for everything that goes wrong and I know deep down that I cant be with this guy because he needs to do alot of soul searching but I miss him so much.Its been a week and I have gotten better,I dont cry every day.Its just that I had the worst 3 days of my life.Day one-my dog died.Day two-My guy and I split.Day three- I get fired for being upset at work because of the events of day one and two.I just feel so overwhelmed by all of this.Now I have no job to go to,no boyfriend to be with,hes my best friend too so its hard not to have that and no dog.The thing I miss the most is him though.I have been keeping busy lately,really busy with all my girlfriend.Last night me and all my girlfriends had a girls night at the bar and it was so fun but seeing all those sleezy guys and girls there just make me miss my sweet guy.I dont know if the empty feeling I have is normal.I havent cried for like four days or been sad about him but yesterday I just broke down while I was looking at pics of him and I.W e got along so good....

Someone please tell me this will be easier soon? If anyone has stories about thier first love breakups and then them finding the one they are with now,please share,I feel like Im alone in this.

Thanks

eightball61 · 08-27-2004, 10:27 AM

Take a mirror out and see what this guy is going to you........Breaks are hard to deal with you cant handle his cockiness or his change in attitude. The real person usually comes out after a while in a relationship and this is probably the real him and nothing may change. You have 2 choices.....either stay or leave.

This man has caused you to cry, feel down, lose a job, ect. As isaid break up are hard but you need to do something now before you let this ruin your future. It clearly shows you need a break but you need a wake up call to prove that you need this break. You need to go out and get a new job and start fresh. Get yourself together to get your mind off from him and see a counselor. Once you are ready then date again.

elatedgiraffe · 08-27-2004, 10:30 AM

Commited--*hugs*
I'm sorry about your dog, your guy, and getting fired. Whats the saying? When it rains it pours. I bet you can't imagine things getting much worse. Things will get better and heartache sucks. I think the first heartache is the worst because you don't realize how bad it is going to hurt and it is such a new and awful experience to go through. Everyone goes through it. Life has a way of working itself out. I'm glad to hear you are hanging with your girlfriends. Just take some time out for you. Go do something nice for yourself. I know it seems the whole world is falling apart, but in time you will heal, your heart will heal and things will get better. I remember how painful it was to loose my first love. Its only been a week, give it time.