Straight, to the point, no beating around the bush. Besides sex.....what do you guys want from us???
I think men are harder to please than women, I think men don't really know what they want, and I think we can't really please you unless are mouths are shut, and our legs are open. I am not trying to be rude, and I am sorry if I offended anyone. But I have been trying to please my husband for 20 years, and no matter what, it's wrong. So I would just like to hear it from the boards, honestly, what do you REALLY want???? Just a few good examples would be nice. Maybe you can make me see it in a new light. I am an open minded person. Give it to me straight.
Yes, some men would like their SO to be like that. I personally would want my SO to appreciate me and think i"m the best man for her.
So many woman are with one guy but wish they were with another. Some
want their SO to look or act like another. Other woman will compare every guy they have a relationship with, against a former SO or the inevitable "one nighter" who can do no wrong.
I want a woman who doesn"t do those three things and is just "settling"for me out of fear of being alone.I"m finding and hearing it"s pretty hard to find a woman like that.
By the way,if the relationship is real and both people are on the same page,
the sex part will come naturally.
My husband of 13 years wants, as realguy already mentioned, appreciation. My husband wants me to acknowledge the things he does for me, support his decisions even if I don't agree with them every time. He wants me to be affectionate, and to listen (with sincere interest) when he wants to talk motorcycles, or racing. Sometimes he wants me all over him and other times he wants some space. What I've learned from my husband, is that he wants the same things I want.
Hmmmm....I think the answer you get depends on what guy you ask. I did find that my husband is happier with us talking, and I learned that talking isnt going to occur with me CONSTANTLY nagging and complaining about our lack of a relationship. So I guess in a way, he did want my mouth closed. As for the legs open, well, no problems there. Im always ready lol. I worry about him as we get older not wanting to have sex alot-I dont know if I could handle him not wanting to. I love being intimate.
When I was a couple years younger, I spent some time as a "trophy" girlfriend. God, that sucked. The guy was totally concerned with my looks, wanted to dress me (always talked about what I was wearing) wanted his friends to envy him, blah blah blah. He didnt give a crap about me as long as I was looking good that was all he cared about. The sad part is that he didnt even KNOW me really, and he thought he loved me because for some reason I was physically his "ideal". I dont mean that in a "oh my god Im so hot like pam anderson" kind of way, cause believe me, Im so NOT!!!lol Im tall and skinny and for whatever reason, he was into that. He said some crap about not wanting to marry a woman who would get fat on him. But he was getting fat!!!lol Ironically, he treated me pretty badly for wanting to marry me. Glad he is gone. I heard he went and married a girl fresh out of high school (shes 18 and he is 30). Not that there's anything wrong with that, but I figure he probably worries about his girl aging too. Ugh. He was also very jealous and didnt want me around other men unless he was there. Kind of hard to do with work and school and all.
Men want different things. Some guys want a barbie to have on their arm, some guys want substance, some guys want it all. And some guys dont know what they want. I married the greatest guy on earth, and I remember my ex saying ' I dont understand. I look better than him. why did you pick him??" Then he proceeds to tell me what physical attributes he has that are better (taller, better looking) Lol.
Cause obviously, my husband was the total package, smart ambitious and caring, as opposed to just a pretty face (and physically he is perfect to me).
And some guys dont know what they want....
Cause obviously, my husband was the total package, smart ambitious and caring, as opposed to just a pretty face (and physically he is perfect to me).
I totally agree that some men have no idea what they want. I saw one of those daytime tv talk shows once about how to raise a son not to be a chauvanist, and the host had a couple of died in the wool chauvanists on the panel and they said a good woman is totally dedicated to her family and wouldn't even consider working ouside the home if she has children and will consider therapy or whatever before divorce, etc etc. and there was a married couple on the panel and he had physically abused her for years and had been through therapy to stop and they were trying to work it out, and the chauvanists talked down to her like she was nothing, and here she was doing everything they said they wanted a woman to do, and they were crapping on her for it, for staying in the abusive relationship. So some men really have no idea how to relate to women or what women are all about and they have no idea what they want from one. But I agree with what James Spader said in Sex Lies and Videotape (great movie): men learn to love the women they are attracted to, and women learn to be attracted to the men they fall in love with. It does seem to be true that an average looking man suddenly becomes the most beautiful thing on earth when he loves you right. But I'd have to agree with most of the posts here and assume that men want what we want, to be loved and appreciated for what we can contribute to the relationship.
What do men REALLY want? 
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