boyfriend troubles - Relationship Health Message Board

roxychic0437 · 08-28-2004, 09:34 AM

[FONT=Impact] i dated a guy for 7 months last year, and then we decided to break it off. i was devistated! well about a month ago we hooked up again, and it started off with this huge surge, were in love.. i mean come on we had feelings for each other all last year even when we were seeing other ppl. i told him i wouldnt ever break up with him, and im serious. he said the same. well im a very anxiety driven person and one thing goes wrong a freak out. well for the past couple days things seem to be going slower, and im freaking out bc i love him sooo much. its like ive talked to him about everything (literally) and theres not much to say besides, i love you i love you more, blah.. what are some things i can do, to wind things up a bit before he becomes unintersted? or maybe is it just me? i mean he said said i love you more in class yesterday, and ur so sexy, and he still wants to kiss me and stuff, but i dunno. twice he wasnt at the spot he always is to come see me.. and he just dosnt seem like his normal self am i paniacking over nothing? or this normal guy behavior? plz help

eightball61 · 08-28-2004, 10:14 AM

first off you should stop worrying and panicing....You bith have gotten back together and everything is going great. You need to stop feeling this way so it doesn't interfear with the relationship. you are feeling insecure because of the past break up and you are afraid of it happening again. You cant predict the future and what will happen.

just be there for him and dont distence yourself away. You both need the security of each other but you dont want to be too insecure. Just be a GF to him...thats mean listen to him, be there, ect ad he will do the same. goodluck

elatedgiraffe · 08-28-2004, 12:23 PM

You need to relax....breathe in breathe out.....
The best way to push a man away is to act clingy or be constantly worried about the relationship.
Sometimes in life we have to let go and let nature take it's course. Stop for a moment and smell the roses.
I know it is easier said then done and I myself am guilty of easily getting worked up, but with hard work I have found a place of comfort and peace and thats what you need to find.
Let this relationship happen as it happens. Be true to yourself, treat this man how you would want to be treated and if it is meant to be it will fall into place. Worrying about the future with this guy will not have any change on the final outcome. Basically worrying is a waste of time and energy and only has negative consequences.
If you can't get to a point of calmness and sit back and enjoy the present moment of the relationship then maybe you might want to consider meds to help decrease you anxious tendencies a little.
Good luck and I hope all works out.