I am 22 years old and just ended a relationship with my ex-girlfreind about three months ago. We dated for over a year, and I could not of asked for more in a girl. We were so in love and always talked about getting married. She would always bring it up, and always talked about having my children. Anyways, last year was her first year of college, and my fourth. We went the whole year and it was still great, and saw eachother all the time. Then in the last month of school, i found out she cheated on me with 2 diffrent guys. I was of course heartbroken, and she would call me all the time crying and apoligizing that she made this mistake.
I still loved her, but couldnt trust her. Over this summer, we still talked and saw eachother a several times. All she ever did was tell me how she couldnt live if I didnt want to be with her, and that she could NEVER LOVE SOMEONE or BE WITH ANYONE again, because she knew that I was the one.
Well, I realized that I couldnt trust her, so it would not work, and she wanted to remain freinds, cuz she said she needed me in her life. I eventually stopped talking to her, and this is where the stupid part comes in.
It seriously makes me laugh, but also a little mad, just becuase of all the things she said to get me back with her. It only took a month for her to have a new boyfreind, but that only lasted a month, then she tried to get in contact with me, and told my friends that she missed me. Then only a month after that, which is now, she has found the "love of her life". Everything that she has ever said to me, she is saying to her new boyfreind.
As you can see, it just totally upsets me that she can say that she can never be with anyone cuz she loves me, and then have two differetn boyfriends in a couple months time. How can you "love" 3 different people in 3 months?
Is this normal for girls? I really think she has a problem and will take attention from whoever gives it to her, which is weird because she is drop dead gorgeous. Anyway, if anyone has any comments bout this situation, let me know please.
Good for you for standing your ground. I too was cheated on once, about 6 months ago and am still trying to work things through with that guy. It's very hard.
Your right, if she loved you like she said she does, she would not have cheated TWICE, or had 2 other b/f's since.
But she sounds quite young, i'm assuing 19ish, and she has alot of growing up yet to do.
You will find someone who will he just as faithful to you as you are to them. They will treat you right, and not play the mind games.
I do have to say congratulations for standing your ground also. Yes, what she did and still is doing is very stupid. She has a lot of problems and you dont want to get caught up with that. I can see that you still have feelings for her because you see something in her that she doesn't even see but you dont want to get mixed up with either getting cheated on again or lied to.
It isn't really normal for someone to cheat I'd say...It does happen a lot but not everyone cheats and you should beable to learn to trust again with someone else. We all make mistakes but we learned from them. You will learn from this and I am glad you are not playing into her words. She does strive for attention and it seems when she is board she will go get thhe attention somewheres else and thats why she may have cheated on you.
I see that though a pass thing that you should move on from though. Forget her all in general or she will continue to confuse you or make you mad with these lies. There are many women out there that are looking for a faithful and loving man like you are so go out and find one
Last edited by eightball61; 11-22-2004 at 10:06 AM.
Another weird thing is that my friend died a month ago, and at the funeral, I saw my ex-ex gf from 4 years ago. I had not spoken to her in 4 years, but she came up to me, and it is like we never fell outta step. We were never really serious, only dated like 4 months and all we did was go out and party, not too bf/gf stuff. But i talk to her everyday for at least an hour since, and she has been out of a serious two year relationship for 2 years, but she got cheated on and it is hard for her to trust guys now.
I dont konw what I want, but i wouldnt mind rekindling an old flame. The only problem is, she thinks that no one can love her like this kid did, and Im tryin to tell her that if someone really loves you, they would not cheat, especially repeatedly. I think this kid really messed her up becuase she was so in love with him. I try to show her that someone who really loved her wouldnt do that to her... she is having trouble adjusting, and this is two years after the fact.
Any suggestions on what I should do about this? I love talking to her, she is beatiful, and we click so well. I just dont konw if I have teh energy and time for another relationship. I guess if it happens, then it happens... i dont wanna force anything.
Another weird thing is that my friend died a month ago, and at the funeral, I saw my ex-ex gf from 4 years ago. I had not spoken to her in 4 years, but she came up to me, and it is like we never fell outta step. We were never really serious, only dated like 4 months and all we did was go out and party, not too bf/gf stuff. But i talk to her everyday for at least an hour since, and she has been out of a serious two year relationship for 2 years, but she got cheated on and it is hard for her to trust guys now.
I dont konw what I want, but i wouldnt mind rekindling an old flame. The only problem is, she thinks that no one can love her like this kid did, and Im tryin to tell her that if someone really loves you, they would not cheat, especially repeatedly. I think this kid really messed her up becuase she was so in love with him. I try to show her that someone who really loved her wouldnt do that to her... she is having trouble adjusting, and this is two years after the fact.
Any suggestions on what I should do about this? I love talking to her, she is beatiful, and we click so well. I just dont konw if I have teh energy and time for another relationship. I guess if it happens, then it happens... i dont wanna force anything.
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