going out with a new baby - Relationship Health Message Board

jessy28 · 06-16-2005, 09:19 AM

we just had a new baby. sometimes we drive our baby over to his mom's house that is a long drive so we can go out. that is great because perferably we would like to go out with each other. but , it is a pain and we really need to get cool with each other going out occasionally alone. we both get funny about it. i am better about it than he is. i don't want a marraige like that. i want to enjoy being together but i also want to pick our battles and going out for a drink or two seperately is not one of them. it is easier that way. one of us can stay home with the baby. so far he has gone to like three concerts, out last night for a few, and basically anytime he has told me he really wanted to do something i have bit my lip and told him to go ahead. the only reason i have to bite my lip is because of insecurities. he tends to not to do that. we will see, because i am going to try him out soon. if he freaks out and comes up with silly reasons as to why i should not go i am going to wig out on our relationship. there has got to be a way to work on this and become comfortable with each other going out and be happy for one another when the other one did have fun. any advice or experiences.?

Comptons · 06-16-2005, 02:16 PM

After reading both of your posts - it sounds like you are going through the aftermath of recently having a baby. You seem desperate for some peace and relaxation - as well as for someone (preferably your husband) to acknowledge the good work you're doing as a new mother. You ARE doing a great job and your emotions/hormones will be back in check soon. It took me over 6 months to get hormones back in line. Hang in there and let your husband know that a pat on the back or a reward by giving you time out for yourself is much needed right now.

jessy28 · 06-16-2005, 07:21 PM

yes it is. it is really needed. i love my baby but i was feeling like he took no notice to any of the good work i was doing and wanted a pat on the back for him working all the time. i do pat him on the back because he works hard but now i feel like i do too. i feel like we both deserve to give each other a break and say go out and have a good and relaxing time.